<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:psc="http://podlove.org/simple-chapters" xmlns:podcast="https://podcastindex.org/namespace/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[The Stories We Tell Ourselves]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>Conversations on relationships and mental health</p>]]></description><link>https://www.drrscottgornto.com/podcast</link><generator>Riverside.fm (https://riverside.com)</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 28 May 2026 14:46:27 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://api.riverside.com/hosting/B5vEDTPb.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><author><![CDATA[Dr. R. Scott Gornto]]></author><pubDate>Wed, 25 Feb 2026 02:24:06 GMT</pubDate><copyright><![CDATA[2026 Dr. R. Scott Gornto]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><ttl>60</ttl><category><![CDATA[Mental Health]]></category><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><itunes:author>Dr. R. Scott Gornto</itunes:author><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;Conversations on relationships and mental health&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:type>episodic</itunes:type><itunes:owner><itunes:name>Dr. R. Scott Gornto</itunes:name><itunes:email>dr.g@auxanocounseling.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:category text="Health &amp; Fitness"><itunes:category text="Mental Health"/></itunes:category><itunes:category text="Society &amp; Culture"><itunes:category text="Relationships"/></itunes:category><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/logos/54fe8da7-ec1e-4fdd-9446-d4f15a16df55.png"/><item><title><![CDATA[Ep. 3 On Relationships: Narcissism, Abuse, Trauma, and Unhealthy Cycles]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>In this episode, I answer the following questions: </p><p> </p><p>“How do I know if I’m being abused? My husband of 31 years is cold and emotionally disconnected and blames me for everything. I may be discarded by a covert narcissist. What is the best thing to do? How do I leave someone who hates me but will not let me free?”<br /></p><p>“My previous relationship was traumatic, abusive and left me doubting that I won’t ever trust again. And as a result, I constantly look for red flags in my new relationship, but I’ve yet to see any red flags from her. How can I fully relax and just enjoy the relationship without being paranoid that she will cause me pain?”</p><p></p><p>“How do you navigate the world of dating when the very things that attract someone to you inevitably become the same things that overwhelm them and cause the relationship to end. Do I dim my light? Do I ease their insecurities? It feels like an endless cycle of failure.”</p>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">b78df06e-4822-4d7b-ac22-1a3ac351e4b2</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Dr. R. Scott Gornto]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2026 06:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/9f0a82d7855e728667f8aa259aef66265927bf5b2485b393d5c33bb46adee95d/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiJiNzhkZjA2ZS00ODIyLTRkN2ItYWMyMi0xYTNhYzM1MWU0YjIiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiJmZWQyMjliNS1mYzBjLTRmMTAtOTU2Zi1jZjAyZmIxZjhlOTUiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2ODkyNTJkODFlMmY5OGRmNGQyYzYwYmMiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNmExNTA3MzU2ZWJmMDYzMmI3MDNhN2JhL2RyLS1yLS1zY290dC1nb3JudG9zLXN0dWRpby1jb21wb3Nlci0yMDI2LTUtMjZfXzQtMzYtMzcubXAzIn0=.mp3" length="44989171" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/episodes/b78df06e-4822-4d7b-ac22-1a3ac351e4b2/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I answer the following questions: &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;“How do I know if I’m being abused? My husband of 31 years is cold and emotionally disconnected and blames me for everything. I may be discarded by a covert narcissist. What is the best thing to do? How do I leave someone who hates me but will not let me free?”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;“My previous relationship was traumatic, abusive and left me doubting that I won’t ever trust again. And as a result, I constantly look for red flags in my new relationship, but I’ve yet to see any red flags from her. How can I fully relax and just enjoy the relationship without being paranoid that she will cause me pain?”&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;“How do you navigate the world of dating when the very things that attract someone to you inevitably become the same things that overwhelm them and cause the relationship to end. Do I dim my light? Do I ease their insecurities? It feels like an endless cycle of failure.”&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:23:26</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/logos/54fe8da7-ec1e-4fdd-9446-d4f15a16df55.png"/><itunes:season>1</itunes:season><itunes:episode>3</itunes:episode><itunes:title>Ep. 3 On Relationships: Narcissism, Abuse, Trauma, and Unhealthy Cycles</itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep. 2 Boundaries, Self-Limiting Beliefs, and Anxiety  ]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p>In this episode I answer the following questions:</p><p></p><ul><li>“I've struggled with boundaries most of my life. I would love to come up with some ways to be consistent with boundaries.”</li><li>“I've struggled with not feeling good enough. Is that a common belief that people have? And can you tell me how to overcome it?”</li><li>“I’ve struggled with anxiety most of my life. I would love to find ways to stop anxiety and if I can’t stop it, some way to manage it?</li></ul>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">41440140-89b8-4280-a929-fb4b59825c2b</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Dr. R. Scott Gornto]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 15 Apr 2026 05:00:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/1ff1f94237d6b070d92cba5b3f7fd9f722d386439f560c495b8f568e1d6e88c7/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiI0MTQ0MDE0MC04OWI4LTQyODAtYTkyOS1mYjRiNTk4MjVjMmIiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiJmZWQyMjliNS1mYzBjLTRmMTAtOTU2Zi1jZjAyZmIxZjhlOTUiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2ODkyNTJkODFlMmY5OGRmNGQyYzYwYmMiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNjlkNmFkOWUxYTJmY2IxNDE5Y2JiMmNlL2RyLS1yLS1zY290dC1nb3JudG9zLXN0dWRpby1jb21wb3Nlci0yMDI2LTQtOF9fMjEtMzMtNDkubXAzIn0=.mp3" length="29251754" type="audio/mpeg"/><podcast:transcript url="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/episodes/41440140-89b8-4280-a929-fb4b59825c2b/transcripts.txt" type="text/plain"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;In this episode I answer the following questions:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;“I&apos;ve struggled with boundaries most of my life. I would love to come up with some ways to be consistent with boundaries.”&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;“I&apos;ve struggled with not feeling good enough. Is that a common belief that people have? And can you tell me how to overcome it?”&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;“I’ve struggled with anxiety most of my life. I would love to find ways to stop anxiety and if I can’t stop it, some way to manage it?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:20:19</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/logos/54fe8da7-ec1e-4fdd-9446-d4f15a16df55.png"/><itunes:title>Ep. 2 Boundaries, Self-Limiting Beliefs, and Anxiety  </itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ep. 1 Effective communication in relationships, breaking unhealthy cycles, & trusting your intuition]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p><b>In this episode, I answer the following questions:</b></p><p>"How do I get better at communicating with my partner?"</p><p></p><p>"How do you unlearn patterns that once kept you safe? How do you listen to your intuition without second-guessing?"</p><p></p><p>"How do I break the cycle of still feeling that my opinions are not as valid as someone else’s, that surely I am not “smart enough, funny enough, relevant enough, pretty enough, fit enough…” How do I stop questioning myself and begin living in my own truth?"</p>]]></description><guid isPermaLink="false">75630698-1b93-4bf6-9b42-a7b638a039a2</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Dr. R. Scott Gornto]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 18 Mar 2026 05:15:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://api.riverside.com/hosting-analytics/media/ae25b63406a04ed92b03fd1caacbfdfed4ace63f1c8a7dec8e1615c55a1b2105/eyJlcGlzb2RlSWQiOiI3NTYzMDY5OC0xYjkzLTRiZjYtOWI0Mi1hN2I2MzhhMDM5YTIiLCJwb2RjYXN0SWQiOiJmZWQyMjliNS1mYzBjLTRmMTAtOTU2Zi1jZjAyZmIxZjhlOTUiLCJhY2NvdW50SWQiOiI2ODkyNTJkODFlMmY5OGRmNGQyYzYwYmMiLCJwYXRoIjoibWVkaWEvY2xpcHMvNjk5ZTU1Y2IwMGRlMjY5MGMwNWRmYTI0L2RyLS1yLS1zY290dC1nb3JudG9zLXN0dWRpby1jb21wb3Nlci0yMDI2LTItMjVfXzItNTItMTEubXAzIn0=.mp3" length="32622804" type="audio/mpeg"/><itunes:summary>&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;In this episode, I answer the following questions:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&quot;How do I get better at communicating with my partner?&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&quot;How do you unlearn patterns that once kept you safe? How do you listen to your intuition without second-guessing?&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&quot;How do I break the cycle of still feeling that my opinions are not as valid as someone else’s, that surely I am not “smart enough, funny enough, relevant enough, pretty enough, fit enough…” How do I stop questioning myself and begin living in my own truth?&quot;&lt;/p&gt;</itunes:summary><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:duration>00:22:39</itunes:duration><itunes:image href="https://hosting-media.riverside.com/media/podcasts/fed229b5-fc0c-4f10-956f-cf02fb1f8e95/logos/54fe8da7-ec1e-4fdd-9446-d4f15a16df55.png"/><itunes:season>1</itunes:season><itunes:episode>1</itunes:episode><itunes:title>Ep. 1 Effective communication in relationships, breaking unhealthy cycles, &amp; trusting your intuition</itunes:title><itunes:episodeType>full</itunes:episodeType></item></channel></rss>