<![CDATA[Waiting with Love]]>Waiting with Love is a fellowship-style podcast for couples, parents-to-be, and anyone living in the long, uncertain wait for something deeply hoped for. Hosted by Andrew and Matt, the show explores adoption, surrogacy, IVF, infertility, grief, patience, and hope - without advice, fixes, or formulas. This is not therapy. It's a shared space to sit in the messy middle, tell the truth about waiting, and find ways to hope with love, together.

]]>www.waitingwithlove.comRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Tue, 19 May 2026 16:18:13 GMTSun, 11 Jan 2026 15:24:45 GMT60Hopeful Dads<p>Waiting with Love is a fellowship-style podcast for couples, parents-to-be, and anyone living in the long, uncertain wait for something deeply hoped for. Hosted by Andrew and Matt, the show explores adoption, surrogacy, IVF, infertility, grief, patience, and hope - without advice, fixes, or formulas. This is not therapy. It's a shared space to sit in the messy middle, tell the truth about waiting, and find ways to hope with love, together.</p>episodicHopeful Dadshope@waitingwithlove.comno<![CDATA[Episode 18: Still Waiting - A Check-In]]>Waiting with Love: A Check In

In this episode, Matt and Andrew open up about their ongoing surrogacy journey, the challenges of waiting for important updates, and how they stay grounded amidst uncertainty. They share personal reflections, coping strategies, and insights learned along the way—offering comfort and solidarity to anyone navigating a similar waiting game.

Key Topics:

  • The emotional rollercoaster of waiting for critical updates
  • Ways to manage anxiety during prolonged periods of uncertainty
  • How routine activities and outside time help cope with stress
  • Communication habits and control over how and when to receive news
  • Celebrating small wins and maintaining healthy habits despite setbacks
  • The importance of awareness of personal and partner reactions to waiting

Timestamps:

  • 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the significance of sharing their journey
  • 01:17 - Initial check-in: reflections after several months of podcasting
  • 02:38 - Approaching the surrogacy process with patience and understanding
  • 04:21 - How producing the podcast has improved efficiency and mood
  • 05:07 - The latest update waiting game: managing expectations and anxiety
  • 07:25 - The Sunday Scaries and the impact of waiting during the workweek
  • 08:21 - The hope and fear associated with positive news
  • 09:32 - Differing approaches: planning versus improvising in life and this journey
  • 10:41 - How outside activities like yard work and fires aid emotional resilience
  • 11:49 - Dealing with anxious nights and the importance of routine
  • 13:04 - Distinct anxieties during the workweek versus weekends
  • 15:13 - The obsession with updates and the irrational game of waiting
  • 16:47 - Strategies like time blocking to control the flow of information
  • 17:11 - Controlling the way they receive updates to reduce anxiety
  • 18:14 - How communication patterns reflect their emotional states
  • 19:13 - The vivid imaginations and worst-case scenarios in anxious moments
  • 20:05 - Recognizing the factors out of their control and focusing on what they can influence
  • 22:37 - Celebrating progress: healthier habits compared to earlier coping methods
  • 23:36 - The ongoing effort to maintain constructive routines during long waits
  • 24:45 - How awareness of habits and reactions helps sustain mental health
  • 25:17 - Lighthearted story about their first date and humor in the journey
  • 25:41 - Closing remarks: sharing the episode and connecting with others

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

Special Mention:

There is no major announcement in this episode, but we continue to share our journey and insights.

]]>cb3f0747-23d1-42c9-b8e5-90001314a55cSun, 17 May 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Waiting with Love: A Check In</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew open up about their ongoing surrogacy journey, the challenges of waiting for important updates, and how they stay grounded amidst uncertainty. They share personal reflections, coping strategies, and insights learned along the way—offering comfort and solidarity to anyone navigating a similar waiting game.</p><p></p><p><b>Key Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The emotional rollercoaster of waiting for critical updates</li><li>Ways to manage anxiety during prolonged periods of uncertainty</li><li>How routine activities and outside time help cope with stress</li><li>Communication habits and control over how and when to receive news</li><li>Celebrating small wins and maintaining healthy habits despite setbacks</li><li>The importance of awareness of personal and partner reactions to waiting</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><ul><li>00:00 - Introduction to the episode and the significance of sharing their journey</li><li>01:17 - Initial check-in: reflections after several months of podcasting</li><li>02:38 - Approaching the surrogacy process with patience and understanding</li><li>04:21 - How producing the podcast has improved efficiency and mood</li><li>05:07 - The latest update waiting game: managing expectations and anxiety</li><li>07:25 - The Sunday Scaries and the impact of waiting during the workweek</li><li>08:21 - The hope and fear associated with positive news</li><li>09:32 - Differing approaches: planning versus improvising in life and this journey</li><li>10:41 - How outside activities like yard work and fires aid emotional resilience</li><li>11:49 - Dealing with anxious nights and the importance of routine</li><li>13:04 - Distinct anxieties during the workweek versus weekends</li><li>15:13 - The obsession with updates and the irrational game of waiting</li><li>16:47 - Strategies like time blocking to control the flow of information</li><li>17:11 - Controlling the way they receive updates to reduce anxiety</li><li>18:14 - How communication patterns reflect their emotional states</li><li>19:13 - The vivid imaginations and worst-case scenarios in anxious moments</li><li>20:05 - Recognizing the factors out of their control and focusing on what they can influence</li><li>22:37 - Celebrating progress: healthier habits compared to earlier coping methods</li><li>23:36 - The ongoing effort to maintain constructive routines during long waits</li><li>24:45 - How awareness of habits and reactions helps sustain mental health</li><li>25:17 - Lighthearted story about their first date and humor in the journey</li><li>25:41 - Closing remarks: sharing the episode and connecting with others</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul><p><b>Special Mention:</b></p><p>There is no major announcement in this episode, but we continue to share our journey and insights.</p>yes00:26:22118Episode 18: Still Waiting - A Check-Infull<![CDATA[Episode 17: Why Travel Planning is so Hard While Waiti]]>In this episode, Matt and Andrew explore how to manage travel plans amidst the unpredictability of fertility treatments like surrogacy and IVF. They share personal insights, practical tips, and emotional strategies to help others navigate this complex terrain while still living their lives and creating meaningful memories.

Key Topics:

  • The emotional impact of delaying or adjusting travel plans during fertility treatments
  • How financial milestones and unpredictable timelines influence travel decisions
  • Strategies for booking refundable trips and hotels to maintain flexibility
  • Timing travel around pregnancy milestones and medical procedures
  • The importance of having a mental “placeholder” trip to stay hopeful
  • Balancing logistical challenges with the desire to live fully during waiting periods
  • Practical tips for booking flights and accommodations with cancellations in mind
  • The significance of choosing shorter, local trips versus long-haul vacations for flexibility
  • How setbacks in fertility journeys can sometimes open opportunities for meaningful travel
  • The role of control and uncertainty in planning big purchases or life changes during waiting

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and introduction: Navigating waiting with hope
00:48 - The challenges of planning travel during fertility treatments
03:09 - The impact of large payments and unpredictable success on travel decisions
06:14 - Identifying travel windows around pregnancy milestones
08:44 - The importance of flexible bookings and cancellation policies
11:16 - Planning trips with purpose: visiting loved ones before due dates
13:17 - The emotional value of having trips on the calendar
16:32 - Using trips as emotional “exit strategies”
18:44 - How setbacks In fertility can create opportunities for meaningful travel
20:08 - Practical tips for booking refundable flights and hotels
22:09 - Prioritizing flexibility and local trips amid uncertainty
24:22 - The importance of control and adapting plans during emotionally charged times
26:25 - Reflecting on financial priorities and meaningful moments over material things
27:45 - Final thoughts: Living fully despite the unpredictability

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

]]>a9170511-7776-4545-9e82-e1a9c3f15e7dSun, 10 May 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew explore how to manage travel plans amidst the unpredictability of fertility treatments like surrogacy and IVF. They share personal insights, practical tips, and emotional strategies to help others navigate this complex terrain while still living their lives and creating meaningful memories.</p><p></p><p><b>Key Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The emotional impact of delaying or adjusting travel plans during fertility treatments</li><li>How financial milestones and unpredictable timelines influence travel decisions</li><li>Strategies for booking refundable trips and hotels to maintain flexibility</li><li>Timing travel around pregnancy milestones and medical procedures</li><li>The importance of having a mental “placeholder” trip to stay hopeful</li><li>Balancing logistical challenges with the desire to live fully during waiting periods</li><li>Practical tips for booking flights and accommodations with cancellations in mind</li><li>The significance of choosing shorter, local trips versus long-haul vacations for flexibility</li><li>How setbacks in fertility journeys can sometimes open opportunities for meaningful travel</li><li>The role of control and uncertainty in planning big purchases or life changes during waiting</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and introduction: Navigating waiting with hope<br />00:48 - The challenges of planning travel during fertility treatments<br />03:09 - The impact of large payments and unpredictable success on travel decisions<br />06:14 - Identifying travel windows around pregnancy milestones<br />08:44 - The importance of flexible bookings and cancellation policies<br />11:16 - Planning trips with purpose: visiting loved ones before due dates<br />13:17 - The emotional value of having trips on the calendar<br />16:32 - Using trips as emotional “exit strategies”<br />18:44 - How setbacks In fertility can create opportunities for meaningful travel<br />20:08 - Practical tips for booking refundable flights and hotels<br />22:09 - Prioritizing flexibility and local trips amid uncertainty<br />24:22 - The importance of control and adapting plans during emotionally charged times<br />26:25 - Reflecting on financial priorities and meaningful moments over material things<br />27:45 - Final thoughts: Living fully despite the unpredictability</p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="www.waitingwithlove.com" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul>yes00:29:21117Episode 17: Why Travel Planning is so Hard While Waitifull<![CDATA[Episode 16: Does Waiting Ever "Settle?"]]>Waiting With Love: Does the Wait Ever Get Easier?


On this episode of Waiting With Love, hosts Matt and Andrew explore the realities of long-term waiting—how, despite perceptions, it doesn’t necessarily get easier over time. They share personal insights, common misconceptions, and practical strategies for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of waiting, especially in the context of fertility and adoption journeys.

Core Topics:

  • The myth that waiting improves with time and the reality that expectations often shift
  • How constant anxiety manifests in checking emails and phone calls during the surrogacy process
  • The role of patience, grace, and understanding within the support system of agencies and clinics
  • The irrational fears and "rabbit holes" anxiety can lead to during extended waiting periods

Timestamps
00:00 - Introducing the podcast's purpose and the theme of waiting
00:49 - Addressing the misconception that waiting gets easier over time
01:17 - Personal experiences of coping with ongoing waiting
01:46 - How waiting can worsen or improve coping depending on circumstances
02:06 - The constant checking and high alertness during surrogacy and adoption
03:48 - Differences between adoption and surrogacy communication
04:17 - The role of patience and setting expectations during long waits
06:40 - Living in a constant state of fear and the unpredictability of updates
07:48 - Living with uncertainty during moments of scheduled but delayed updates
09:09 - The importance of extending grace to agencies and clinics
10:16 - The misconception that delays mean inactivity or stagnation
11:15 - Surprising aspects of long waiting periods and what remains hidden to outsiders
13:09 - The emotional toll of expecting news on specific days
14:40 - The timeline of embryo creation and waiting for results
16:10 - The difficulty of not being caught off guard by unexpected update timings
17:02 - Faith, hope, and personal coping strategies in waiting
18:12 - The significance of recognizing that waiting energy can be drained but manageable
19:09 - How anticipation influences emotional exhaustion
20:24 - The impact of good communication with a birth mother during adoption vs. surrogacy
22:36 - The controlled environment of surrogacy versus traditional conception anxiety
24:29 - The importance of keeping busy and the effect on wait times
25:45 - The emotional impact of being separated during busy periods
27:06 - Irrational fears and the rabbit holes of anxiety
28:03 - Encouragement for listeners: you’re not alone in this journey
29:21 - Recognizing patterns in timing and managing expectations
29:43 - Closing thoughts and the reminder to keep waiting with love

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

]]>2cbda754-fea8-4080-a32b-36e2092a13c6Sun, 03 May 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Waiting With Love: Does the Wait Ever Get Easier?</b></p><p><b><br /></b>On this episode of <i>Waiting With Love</i>, hosts Matt and Andrew explore the realities of long-term waiting—how, despite perceptions, it doesn’t necessarily get easier over time. They share personal insights, common misconceptions, and practical strategies for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of waiting, especially in the context of fertility and adoption<b> </b>journeys<b>.</b></p><p></p><p><b>Core Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The myth that waiting improves with time and the reality that expectations often shift</li><li>How constant anxiety manifests in checking emails and phone calls during the surrogacy process</li><li>The role of patience, grace, and understanding within the support system of agencies and clinics</li><li>The irrational fears and "rabbit holes" anxiety can lead to during extended waiting periods</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps<br /></b>00:00 - Introducing the podcast's purpose and the theme of waiting<br />00:49 - Addressing the misconception that waiting gets easier over time<br />01:17 - Personal experiences of coping with ongoing waiting<br />01:46 - How waiting can worsen or improve coping depending on circumstances<br />02:06 - The constant checking and high alertness during surrogacy and adoption<br />03:48 - Differences between adoption and surrogacy communication<br />04:17 - The role of patience and setting expectations during long waits<br />06:40 - Living in a constant state of fear and the unpredictability of updates<br />07:48 - Living with uncertainty during moments of scheduled but delayed updates<br />09:09 - The importance of extending grace to agencies and clinics<br />10:16 - The misconception that delays mean inactivity or stagnation<br />11:15 - Surprising aspects of long waiting periods and what remains hidden to outsiders<br />13:09 - The emotional toll of expecting news on specific days<br />14:40 - The timeline of embryo creation and waiting for results<br />16:10 - The difficulty of not being caught off guard by unexpected update timings<br />17:02 - Faith, hope, and personal coping strategies in waiting<br />18:12 - The significance of recognizing that waiting energy can be drained but manageable<br />19:09 - How anticipation influences emotional exhaustion<br />20:24 - The impact of good communication with a birth mother during adoption vs. surrogacy<br />22:36 - The controlled environment of surrogacy versus traditional conception anxiety<br />24:29 - The importance of keeping busy and the effect on wait times<br />25:45 - The emotional impact of being separated during busy periods<br />27:06 - Irrational fears and the rabbit holes of anxiety<br />28:03 - Encouragement for listeners: you’re not alone in this journey<br />29:21 - Recognizing patterns in timing and managing expectations<br />29:43 - Closing thoughts and the reminder to keep waiting with love<br /></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a><p></p></li></ul><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul>yes00:30:24116Episode 16: Does Waiting Ever "Settle?"full<![CDATA[Episode 15: Infertility - Why Not Us?]]>Rethinking Infertility: The Challenges Facing Gay Men in Family Building

In this episode, Matt and Andrew explore a thought-provoking article on the conception of infertility within the gay community. They discuss the legal, financial, and emotional barriers that make family formation a complex reality for same-sex couples, highlighting the need for systemic change.

Main Topics:

  • How the definition of infertility varies and excludes gay men
  • Financial and insurance hurdles for LGBTQ+ family building
  • The emotional toll and privilege associated with pursuing parenthood
  • The potential influence of lawsuits challenging discriminatory definitions

In this episode:

  • The surprising connection between infertility and same-sex parenthood
  • How insurance policies often fail to support gay couples
  • The significance of the New York lawsuit aiming to redefine infertility laws
  • Real-life implications and the high costs of surrogacy and IVF
  • The broader societal conversation around reproductive rights and equality

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Challenging traditional notions of infertility
01:04 - The article from Cosmopolitan and its relevance to LGBTQ+ family building
02:17 - The premise that gay men are viewed as infertile and its implications
03:22 - Biological aspects of infertility and the article’s arguments
04:50 - Limitations of insurance coverage for same-sex couples
05:18 - The high costs of fertility treatments like IVF and surrogacy
06:45 - State laws and their influence on fertility benefits and access
07:12 - How current definitions exclude and disadvantage gay men
08:12 - The lawsuit in New York and its potential to change laws
09:40 - Out-of-pocket expenses and the financial burden for gay couples
10:33 - The societal perception of infertility and economic barriers
12:23 - The privilege of trying to build a family despite financial hurdles
13:02 - Clarifying assumptions about biological parenthood in same-sex relationships
14:01 - The legal landscape: Lawsuits fighting discrimination in fertility laws
15:14 - State-specific restrictions and their impact on insurance coverage
16:45 - Differences in coverage in Maryland and Arkansas discussed
17:44 - The significance of legal wins and how they could influence national policy
19:22 - The slow pace of legal and systemic change, and the importance of advocacy
20:10 - Personal reflections on the privilege and emotional toll of the fertility journey
21:46 - The need for systemic support and the emotional weight of waiting
22:39 - Reflections on societal perceptions of infertility and family rights
23:42 - The importance of ongoing legal battles and potential future changes
28:14 - Final thoughts on the systemic inequities faced by gay men and the call for advocacy

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

]]>6b286fbf-470b-41b5-a789-d43fd49f93b9Sun, 26 Apr 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Rethinking Infertility: The Challenges Facing Gay Men in Family Building</b></p><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew explore a thought-provoking article on the conception of infertility within the gay community. They discuss the legal, financial, and emotional barriers that make family formation a complex reality for same-sex couples, highlighting the need for systemic change.</p><p><b>Main Topics:</b></p><ul><li>How the definition of infertility varies and excludes gay men</li><li>Financial and insurance hurdles for LGBTQ+ family building</li><li>The emotional toll and privilege associated with pursuing parenthood</li><li>The potential influence of lawsuits challenging discriminatory definitions</li></ul><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><ul><li>The surprising connection between infertility and same-sex parenthood</li><li>How insurance policies often fail to support gay couples</li><li>The significance of the New York lawsuit aiming to redefine infertility laws</li><li>Real-life implications and the high costs of surrogacy and IVF</li><li>The broader societal conversation around reproductive rights and equality</li></ul><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Challenging traditional notions of infertility<br />01:04 - The article from Cosmopolitan and its relevance to LGBTQ+ family building<br />02:17 - The premise that gay men are viewed as infertile and its implications<br />03:22 - Biological aspects of infertility and the article’s arguments<br />04:50 - Limitations of insurance coverage for same-sex couples<br />05:18 - The high costs of fertility treatments like IVF and surrogacy<br />06:45 - State laws and their influence on fertility benefits and access<br />07:12 - How current definitions exclude and disadvantage gay men<br />08:12 - The lawsuit in New York and its potential to change laws<br />09:40 - Out-of-pocket expenses and the financial burden for gay couples<br />10:33 - The societal perception of infertility and economic barriers<br />12:23 - The privilege of trying to build a family despite financial hurdles<br />13:02 - Clarifying assumptions about biological parenthood in same-sex relationships<br />14:01 - The legal landscape: Lawsuits fighting discrimination in fertility laws<br />15:14 - State-specific restrictions and their impact on insurance coverage<br />16:45 - Differences in coverage in Maryland and Arkansas discussed<br />17:44 - The significance of legal wins and how they could influence national policy<br />19:22 - The slow pace of legal and systemic change, and the importance of advocacy<br />20:10 - Personal reflections on the privilege and emotional toll of the fertility journey<br />21:46 - The need for systemic support and the emotional weight of waiting<br />22:39 - Reflections on societal perceptions of infertility and family rights<br />23:42 - The importance of ongoing legal battles and potential future changes<br />28:14 - Final thoughts on the systemic inequities faced by gay men and the call for advocacy</p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul>yes00:30:17115Episode 15: Infertility - Why Not Us?full<![CDATA[Episode 14: The Logistics of International Surrogacy]]>Navigating International Surrogacy: The Logistics Behind the Journey

In this episode, Matt and Andrew peel back the curtain on the complex, often overlooked logistics of international surrogacy. From legal hurdles, cross-country coordination, to the emotional weight of waiting, they share their real-world experience navigating this intricate process—highlighting why patience, understanding, and systemic awareness are crucial.

Main Topics:

The multi-country logistical challenges of international surrogacy

The roles and coordination of agencies, clinics, legal teams, and surrogates

How time zones, holidays, and government processes impact communication and delays

Emotional toll and expectations during waiting periods for medical updates and legal steps

Common misconceptions about surrogacy costs and processes in popular culture

The importance of systemic transparency and understanding the process's complexity

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: The messiness and hope in waiting for family-building

01:19 - Surrogacy in multiple countries: logistics and complexity

02:40 - Clarifying our experience and limits of expertise

04:05 - The roles of agencies, clinics, legal teams, and the international project plan

05:58 - The costs and misconceptions around international surrogacy

07:12 - Communication delays across different countries and time zones

08:41 - The systemic delays in receiving medical and legal updates

09:35 - Emotional impact of waiting for test results and news

10:39 - Real-world example of cross-country communication delays

12:06 - The impact of non-urgent medical decisions and global holidays on timing

14:02 - The process of bringing a baby home from another country

16:30 - The emotional and logistical realities of waiting for pregnancy confirmation

18:55 - Additional layers of complexity: travel, legal, and government hurdles

21:06 - Parental leave and international logistics post-birth

23:50 - The systemic design: why the process isn't quick or simple

27:22 - The scientific and medical complexity of making a baby via surrogacy

28:39 - Living with the uncertainty and waiting for news

30:11 - Closing thoughts: resilience and hope in the waiting process

This episode emphasizes the systemic and logistical layers behind international surrogacy, illustrating why delays and uncertainties are often beyond individual control. It advocates for empathy and patience in understanding this complicated process that many hopeful parents navigate with resilience.

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Special Mention:

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]]>c37a67c6-b16b-4b5b-a625-3a5055b88d01Sun, 19 Apr 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Navigating International Surrogacy: The Logistics Behind the Journey</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew peel back the curtain on the complex, often overlooked logistics of international surrogacy. From legal hurdles, cross-country coordination, to the emotional weight of waiting, they share their real-world experience navigating this intricate process—highlighting why patience, understanding, and systemic awareness are crucial.</p><p></p><p><b>Main Topics:</b></p><p>The multi-country logistical challenges of international surrogacy</p><p>The roles and coordination of agencies, clinics, legal teams, and surrogates</p><p>How time zones, holidays, and government processes impact communication and delays</p><p>Emotional toll and expectations during waiting periods for medical updates and legal steps</p><p>Common misconceptions about surrogacy costs and processes in popular culture</p><p>The importance of systemic transparency and understanding the process's complexity</p><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Introduction: The messiness and hope in waiting for family-building</p><p>01:19 - Surrogacy in multiple countries: logistics and complexity</p><p>02:40 - Clarifying our experience and limits of expertise</p><p>04:05 - The roles of agencies, clinics, legal teams, and the international project plan</p><p>05:58 - The costs and misconceptions around international surrogacy</p><p>07:12 - Communication delays across different countries and time zones</p><p>08:41 - The systemic delays in receiving medical and legal updates</p><p>09:35 - Emotional impact of waiting for test results and news</p><p>10:39 - Real-world example of cross-country communication delays</p><p>12:06 - The impact of non-urgent medical decisions and global holidays on timing</p><p>14:02 - The process of bringing a baby home from another country</p><p>16:30 - The emotional and logistical realities of waiting for pregnancy confirmation</p><p>18:55 - Additional layers of complexity: travel, legal, and government hurdles</p><p>21:06 - Parental leave and international logistics post-birth</p><p>23:50 - The systemic design: why the process isn't quick or simple</p><p>27:22 - The scientific and medical complexity of making a baby via surrogacy</p><p>28:39 - Living with the uncertainty and waiting for news</p><p>30:11 - Closing thoughts: resilience and hope in the waiting process</p><p></p><p>This episode emphasizes the systemic and logistical layers behind international surrogacy, illustrating why delays and uncertainties are often beyond individual control. It advocates for empathy and patience in understanding this complicated process that many hopeful parents navigate with resilience.</p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment" target="_blank"><b>The Power of Hope in Difficult Times</b></a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Special Mention:</b></p><p>If this episode resonates, please share it with someone, and visit our website for more info and support.</p>no00:30:44114Episode 14: The Logistics of International Surrogacyfull<![CDATA[Episode 13: Waiting in the "What if it Works?" Headspace]]>Navigating Hope and Fear in the Waiting Season

In this episode of Waiting with Love, Matt and Andrew explore the complex emotions that come with waiting for life-changing news—whether it's for a child, a medical breakthrough, or other long-held dreams. They discuss how moments of good news spark hope, but also bring a wave of fear, and share personal stories that highlight the delicate balance of excitement and caution.

Main Topics:

  • The emotional rollercoaster of hope and fear during fertility and adoption journeys
  • The significance of small moments of joy and anticipation amid uncertainty
  • Strategies for balancing optimism with realistic expectations
  • How lengthening wait-times influence mental health and decision-making
  • The role of logistics and small purchases in maintaining hope without emotional overwhelm

Key Insights:

  • The first hopeful moments, like matching with a birth mother or embryo quality reports, create fleeting but powerful feelings of possibility
  • Past experiences often cast a shadow of cautious hope, making full excitement feel unsafe
  • Practical decisions, such as buying small keepsakes or planning future moves, serve as anchors of hope and tangible steps toward eventual parenthood
  • The importance of setting boundaries about sharing good news to manage anxiety

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and introduction to waiting and hope
02:16 - The challenge of balancing hope with fear during good news moments
03:37 - Personal stories of moments when hope felt real and fleeting
05:03 - Reflecting on the emotional impact of adoption and fertility news
07:06 - Guarded hope vs. unguarded hope: past experiences and current mindset
09:16 - How tools can help level expectations and manage excitement
10:31 - The significance of small purchases and symbolic tokens in hope management
12:05 - The different emotional states when buying nursery items pre-pregnancy
14:04 - Moving to Maine as a symbol of future family planning
15:43 - The evolution of their beliefs about parenthood and readiness
18:38 - Strategies for balancing hope and patience over a long waiting period
20:26 - Handling excitement vs. fear in ongoing fertility journeys
22:17 - The importance of keeping good news private to reduce pressure
23:34 - How logistics and small decisions support hope without leading to heartbreak
24:49 - The difference between hope and anxiety, and finding balance
26:51 - The importance of enjoying life even amid uncertainty
28:19 - Final thoughts on the journey ahead and maintaining hope

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

]]>272dfe77-fc62-4d55-a49b-69b7eff3c83dSun, 12 Apr 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Navigating Hope and Fear in the Waiting Season</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode of <i>Waiting with Love</i>, Matt and Andrew explore the complex emotions that come with waiting for life-changing news—whether it's for a child, a medical breakthrough, or other long-held dreams. They discuss how moments of good news spark hope, but also bring a wave of fear, and share personal stories that highlight the delicate balance of excitement and caution.</p><p></p><p><b>Main Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The emotional rollercoaster of hope and fear during fertility and adoption journeys</li><li>The significance of small moments of joy and anticipation amid uncertainty</li><li>Strategies for balancing optimism with realistic expectations</li><li>How lengthening wait-times influence mental health and decision-making</li><li>The role of logistics and small purchases in maintaining hope without emotional overwhelm</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Key Insights:</b></p><ul><li>The first hopeful moments, like matching with a birth mother or embryo quality reports, create fleeting but powerful feelings of possibility</li><li>Past experiences often cast a shadow of cautious hope, making full excitement feel unsafe</li><li>Practical decisions, such as buying small keepsakes or planning future moves, serve as anchors of hope and tangible steps toward eventual parenthood</li><li>The importance of setting boundaries about sharing good news to manage anxiety</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and introduction to waiting and hope<br />02:16 - The challenge of balancing hope with fear during good news moments<br />03:37 - Personal stories of moments when hope felt real and fleeting<br />05:03 - Reflecting on the emotional impact of adoption and fertility news<br />07:06 - Guarded hope vs. unguarded hope: past experiences and current mindset<br />09:16 - How tools can help level expectations and manage excitement<br />10:31 - The significance of small purchases and symbolic tokens in hope management<br />12:05 - The different emotional states when buying nursery items pre-pregnancy<br />14:04 - Moving to Maine as a symbol of future family planning<br />15:43 - The evolution of their beliefs about parenthood and readiness<br />18:38 - Strategies for balancing hope and patience over a long waiting period<br />20:26 - Handling excitement vs. fear in ongoing fertility journeys<br />22:17 - The importance of keeping good news private to reduce pressure<br />23:34 - How logistics and small decisions support hope without leading to heartbreak<br />24:49 - The difference between hope and anxiety, and finding balance<br />26:51 - The importance of enjoying life even amid uncertainty<br />28:19 - Final thoughts on the journey ahead and maintaining hope</p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment" target="_blank"><b>The Power of Hope in Difficult Times</b></a></li></ul>no00:29:11113Episode 13: Waiting in the "What if it Works?" Headspacefull<![CDATA[Episode 12: Who Isn't Here?]]>Waiting with Love: Exploring LGBTQ+ Family Building, Challenges, and Community

In this open and transparent episode, hosts Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of navigating family building as a same-sex couple, and the surprising dynamics they've observed within their community and beyond. They emphasize the importance of shared experiences, vulnerability, and creating safe spaces for everyone on this path.

Key Topics:

  • The initial motivations behind starting "Waiting with Love" and addressing the lack of LGBTQ+ family-building resources
  • Unexpected audience demographics: straight couples and single women finding relevance in their journey
  • The emotional and physical challenges of surrogacy, IVF, and adoption experiences
  • The social media landscape: over-competition, the "highlight reel," and the culture of coming out repeatedly
  • Why many LGBTQ+ individuals and couples remain silent about their struggles with fertility and family building
  • The importance of vulnerability and creating a community where people can wait and process at their own pace
  • Reflection on societal norms, the need for patience, and fostering inclusive environments for family-building conversations

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Embracing the messy journey of waiting
02:10 - Unexpected audience demographics and their implications
05:28 - Reacting to the surprising engagement patterns of straight couples and singles
09:13 - Insights on surrogacy, egg donation, and the human side of fertility journeys
12:25 - Recognizing the emotional weight of waiting for news and treatment outcomes
15:15 - Why the LGBTQ+ community is quieter about its fertility challenges
20:01 - The impact of social media culture and the need for vulnerability
21:59 - The recurring theme of coming out, questioning, and navigating societal expectations
25:00 - Reflecting on past assumptions and the journey to build community
27:25 - Creating safe spaces for silent struggles and readiness to engage
28:29 - Closing thoughts: You are not alone, and waiting with love is the way forward

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Resources & Links:

Special Mention:


If this episode resonates, please share it with someone who might need reassurance they're not alone, and visit our website for more info and support.

]]>0e84af8c-79d2-4d06-bb15-5b38fe97f260Sun, 05 Apr 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Waiting with Love: Exploring LGBTQ+ Family Building, Challenges, and Community</b></p><p></p><p>In this open and transparent episode, hosts Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of navigating family building as a same-sex couple, and the surprising dynamics they've observed within their community and beyond. They emphasize the importance of shared experiences, vulnerability, and creating safe spaces for everyone on this path.</p><p></p><p><b>Key Topics:</b></p><ul><li>The initial motivations behind starting "Waiting with Love" and addressing the lack of LGBTQ+ family-building resources</li><li>Unexpected audience demographics: straight couples and single women finding relevance in their journey</li><li>The emotional and physical challenges of surrogacy, IVF, and adoption experiences</li><li>The social media landscape: over-competition, the "highlight reel," and the culture of coming out repeatedly</li><li>Why many LGBTQ+ individuals and couples remain silent about their struggles with fertility and family building</li><li>The importance of vulnerability and creating a community where people can wait and process at their own pace</li><li>Reflection on societal norms, the need for patience, and fostering inclusive environments for family-building conversations</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Embracing the messy journey of waiting<br />02:10 - Unexpected audience demographics and their implications<br />05:28 - Reacting to the surprising engagement patterns of straight couples and singles<br />09:13 - Insights on surrogacy, egg donation, and the human side of fertility journeys<br />12:25 - Recognizing the emotional weight of waiting for news and treatment outcomes<br />15:15 - Why the LGBTQ+ community is quieter about its fertility challenges<br />20:01 - The impact of social media culture and the need for vulnerability<br />21:59 - The recurring theme of coming out, questioning, and navigating societal expectations<br />25:00 - Reflecting on past assumptions and the journey to build community<br />27:25 - Creating safe spaces for silent struggles and readiness to engage<br />28:29 - Closing thoughts: You are not alone, and waiting with love is the way forward</p><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a><p></p></li></ul><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Special Mention:</b></p><p><b><br /></b>If this episode resonates, please share it with someone who might need reassurance they're not alone, and visit our website for more info and support.</p>no00:29:04112Episode 12: Who Isn't Here?full<![CDATA[Episode 11: Finding Joy in the Waiting Room]]>Finding Joy in the Waiting Room

In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of waiting, surprise, and finding joy alongside grief. They discuss how unexpected moments, like a surprise visit from a loved one, can reshape our perspective and deepen connections even amid uncertainty.

In this episode:

  • The significance of showing up and finding joy while waiting, especially during long periods of uncertainty
  • How a surprise reunion in Italy transformed a milestone birthday and redefined family bonds
  • The importance of living in the present rather than solely focusing on future hopes
  • Reflections on how life's meaningful moments happen unexpectedly and are worth embracing
  • Balancing grief and joy simultaneously without canceling out either
  • Lessons learned about living fully through shared experiences, meals, and deep conversations
  • The role of community, connection, and intentional presence in navigating infertility and waiting
  • The idea of creating "pockets" of memorable moments that define a year
  • Encouragement to enjoy life now, even while in the waiting room

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and introduction to the theme of joy amid waiting
00:48 - Sharing personal background and recent milestones
01:53 - The impact of surprise visits and family connections
02:23 - How joy persists during times of heavy grief
03:07 - Andrew recounts planning a surprise trip to Italy
04:37 - The emotional moment of the surprise reunion in Italy
05:51 - Embracing family and belonging beyond biological ties
07:04 - Holding grief and joy at the same time
08:04 - Managing anxiety and the temptation to constantly check for updates
09:28 - Reflecting on the past decade and lessons learned
10:38 - The importance of savoring unexpected joys
12:20 - How fertility windows influence travel and life decisions
13:11 - The significance of meaningful conversations in deepening bonds
14:39 - The power of shared meals and simple moments
15:59 - Insights from Tuscany and cultural reflections
19:31 - Realizing life's moments are more about how we live than waiting for a future event
22:24 - The importance of appreciating life now, regardless of waiting
24:20 - Recognizing the blessings amid struggles and setbacks
25:39 - The value of core memories and living fully in the moment
26:31 - The concept that while waiting continues, joy can be experienced in everyday life
27:30 - Celebrating the unexpected and deeply meaningful human connections
28:23 - Closing thoughts and encouragement to keep waiting with love

Resources & Links:

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Remember, the journey to parenthood is unique for everyone. Embrace the timing that feels right for you, and find hope in each step forward.

]]>043e2359-d6f9-4438-8d6e-00f24e329470Sun, 29 Mar 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p>Finding Joy in the Waiting Room</p><p></p><p>In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of waiting, surprise, and finding joy alongside grief. They discuss how unexpected moments, like a surprise visit from a loved one, can reshape our perspective and deepen connections even amid uncertainty.</p><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><p></p><ul><li>The significance of showing up and finding joy while waiting, especially during long periods of uncertainty</li><li>How a surprise reunion in Italy transformed a milestone birthday and redefined family bonds</li><li>The importance of living in the present rather than solely focusing on future hopes</li><li>Reflections on how life's meaningful moments happen unexpectedly and are worth embracing</li><li>Balancing grief and joy simultaneously without canceling out either</li><li>Lessons learned about living fully through shared experiences, meals, and deep conversations</li><li>The role of community, connection, and intentional presence in navigating infertility and waiting</li><li>The idea of creating "pockets" of memorable moments that define a year</li><li>Encouragement to enjoy life now, even while in the waiting room</li></ul><p></p><p><b><i>Timestamps:</i></b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and introduction to the theme of joy amid waiting<br />00:48 - Sharing personal background and recent milestones<br />01:53 - The impact of surprise visits and family connections<br />02:23 - How joy persists during times of heavy grief<br />03:07 - Andrew recounts planning a surprise trip to Italy<br />04:37 - The emotional moment of the surprise reunion in Italy<br />05:51 - Embracing family and belonging beyond biological ties<br />07:04 - Holding grief and joy at the same time<br />08:04 - Managing anxiety and the temptation to constantly check for updates<br />09:28 - Reflecting on the past decade and lessons learned<br />10:38 - The importance of savoring unexpected joys<br />12:20 - How fertility windows influence travel and life decisions<br />13:11 - The significance of meaningful conversations in deepening bonds<br />14:39 - The power of shared meals and simple moments<br />15:59 - Insights from Tuscany and cultural reflections<br />19:31 - Realizing life's moments are more about how we live than waiting for a future event<br />22:24 - The importance of appreciating life now, regardless of waiting<br />24:20 - Recognizing the blessings amid struggles and setbacks<br />25:39 - The value of core memories and living fully in the moment<br />26:31 - The concept that while waiting continues, joy can be experienced in everyday life<br />27:30 - Celebrating the unexpected and deeply meaningful human connections<br />28:23 - Closing thoughts and encouragement to keep waiting with love</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://www.out-abroad.com/" target="_blank"><b>Out and Abroad Luxury Travel &amp; Blog</b></a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><hr /><p><i>Remember, the journey to parenthood is unique for everyone. Embrace the timing that feels right for you, and find hope in each step forward.</i></p>no00:28:55111Episode 11: Finding Joy in the Waiting Roomfull<![CDATA[Episode 10: When Good News Doesn't Feel "Good"]]>When Good News Starts Feeling Less Good: Navigating "Good news" in Adoption, Surrogacy and IVF

In this episode, Matt and Andrew share their personal journey through adoption and surrogacy, exploring how their perception of good news has evolved over a lengthy, often challenging process. They discuss emotional resilience, managing expectations, and the balance between hope and caution, providing insights for anyone facing similar uncertainties.

Key topics:

  • The emotional rollercoaster of adoption and surrogacy journeys
  • How good news can begin to feel less exciting over time
  • The impact of social media on perceptions of pregnancy and parenthood
  • Managing excitement and fear simultaneously
  • The importance of balancing hope with caution
  • Differences in processing positive updates in complicated fertility journeys
  • Common fears and societal pressures in pregnancy and fertility
  • The role of community, sharing, and vulnerability in coping
  • Practical ways to handle good news without diminishing genuine joy
  • The influence of history and human evolution on our perceptions of pregnancy risks

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: navigating hope and disappointment
02:05 - How the fertility and adoption journey shifts perspectives on good news
03:25 - Reliving initial moments of joy amidst setbacks
04:46 - The psychological effects of repeated disappointments
05:44 - Managing risk and hope early in the adoption process
07:16 - The control and unpredictability in surrogacy and adoption
08:59 - How social media amplifies pregnancy joy and pressures
11:37 - The historical context of pregnancy risks throughout human history
12:36 - Social media’s portrayal of perfect pregnancies and its impact
13:06 - The shared experiences of fertility struggles within communities
14:37 - Holding back excitement: personal strategies and shared experiences
15:01 - The emotional toll of multiple adoption setbacks
16:15 - Anticipation versus defensive detachment in preparing for parenthood
17:50 - Finding a healthy middle ground in celebrating milestones
19:35 - How to process good news today: practical tips
20:16 - Navigating emotional tensions within relationships during waiting periods
21:38 - Shifting personal approaches to handling good news
22:31 - The importance of staying present and grounded
24:17 - Recognizing that pregnancy, historically, has always been challenging
25:36 - Emphasizing that there’s no right or wrong way to feel or act
26:36 - The role of small, no-regret decisions early in pregnancy
27:16 - Encouragement to embrace authentic emotions without guilt
27:47 - Wrapping up: encouragement for all in the waiting journey

Resources & Links:

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

]]>70c7eace-a1e2-44c2-b276-1db84bfd760bSun, 22 Mar 2026 16:56:05 GMT<p><b>When Good News Starts Feeling Less Good: Navigating "Good news" in Adoption, Surrogacy and IVF</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew share their personal journey through adoption and surrogacy, exploring how their perception of good news has evolved over a lengthy, often challenging process. They discuss emotional resilience, managing expectations, and the balance between hope and caution, providing insights for anyone facing similar uncertainties.</p><p></p><p><b>Key topics:</b></p><ul><li>The emotional rollercoaster of adoption and surrogacy journeys</li><li>How good news can begin to feel less exciting over time</li><li>The impact of social media on perceptions of pregnancy and parenthood</li><li>Managing excitement and fear simultaneously</li><li>The importance of balancing hope with caution</li><li>Differences in processing positive updates in complicated fertility journeys</li><li>Common fears and societal pressures in pregnancy and fertility</li><li>The role of community, sharing, and vulnerability in coping</li><li>Practical ways to handle good news without diminishing genuine joy</li><li>The influence of history and human evolution on our perceptions of pregnancy risks<p></p></li></ul><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: navigating hope and disappointment<br />02:05 - How the fertility and adoption journey shifts perspectives on good news<br />03:25 - Reliving initial moments of joy amidst setbacks<br />04:46 - The psychological effects of repeated disappointments<br />05:44 - Managing risk and hope early in the adoption process<br />07:16 - The control and unpredictability in surrogacy and adoption<br />08:59 - How social media amplifies pregnancy joy and pressures<br />11:37 - The historical context of pregnancy risks throughout human history<br />12:36 - Social media’s portrayal of perfect pregnancies and its impact<br />13:06 - The shared experiences of fertility struggles within communities<br />14:37 - Holding back excitement: personal strategies and shared experiences<br />15:01 - The emotional toll of multiple adoption setbacks<br />16:15 - Anticipation versus defensive detachment in preparing for parenthood<br />17:50 - Finding a healthy middle ground in celebrating milestones<br />19:35 - How to process good news today: practical tips<br />20:16 - Navigating emotional tensions within relationships during waiting periods<br />21:38 - Shifting personal approaches to handling good news<br />22:31 - The importance of staying present and grounded<br />24:17 - Recognizing that pregnancy, historically, has always been challenging<br />25:36 - Emphasizing that there’s no right or wrong way to feel or act<br />26:36 - The role of small, no-regret decisions early in pregnancy<br />27:16 - Encouragement to embrace authentic emotions without guilt<br />27:47 - Wrapping up: encouragement for all in the waiting journey</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul>no00:28:35110Episode 10: When Good News Doesn't Feel "Good"full<![CDATA[Episode 9: Questions we Love to Hate (Part 2)]]>

Understanding the Emotional Landscape of Waiting for Parenthood: Support, Questions and Compassion

In this episode of Waiting with Love, Matt and Andrew delve into the often challenging questions and comments they encounter while navigating infertility, surrogacy, and adoption. They offer insights on how friends and family can provide meaningful support without causing inadvertent hurt, emphasizing the importance of empathy, patience, and listening.

Main Topics Covered:

  • The impact of insensitive questions about infertility and surrogacy
  • How to support loved ones going through the wait for parenthood
  • The real costs and emotional toll of assisted reproductive technologies
  • Navigating common misconceptions and stereotypes about same-sex and single-parent families
  • Practical advice on how friends can listen better and avoid harmful assumptions
  • Personal stories illustrating the deep longing and sacrifice involved in their journey
  • Why some questions are deeply inappropriate, and how to approach conversations with compassion

Timestamps

  • (0:01) – Welcome and introduction to the space of waiting and shared experience
  • (1:01) – Discussing insensitive questions about the process and future hopes
  • (2:10) – Addressing common misconceptions about travel, finances, and life while waiting
  • (4:31) – The emotional toll behind assumptions and superficial comments
  • (8:28) – The true costs of fertility treatments and surrogacy—beyond money
  • (11:24) – Navigating invasive questions about parental roles and identity
  • (17:02) – How to explain a non-traditional family structure to a child
  • (19:23) – Balancing work, career, and the waiting process
  • (23:32) – Support strategies for friends and loved ones
  • (25:12) – Encouraging open communication and resources for both supporters and those waiting
  • (26:11) – Closing thoughts and ways to connect with the community

Resources & Links:

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Remember, listening with compassion and offering support without judgment can make a significant difference in the lives of those navigating complex paths to parenthood. Your kindness and understanding matter more than you realize.

]]>b0db468d-5214-4356-b7fc-dac0c37d789aSun, 15 Mar 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p></p><p><b>Understanding the Emotional Landscape of Waiting for Parenthood: Support, Questions and Compassion</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode of <i>Waiting with Love</i>, Matt and Andrew delve into the often challenging questions and comments they encounter while navigating infertility, surrogacy, and adoption. They offer insights on how friends and family can provide meaningful support without causing inadvertent hurt, emphasizing the importance of empathy, patience, and listening.</p><p></p><p><b>Main Topics Covered:</b></p><ul><li>The impact of insensitive questions about infertility and surrogacy</li><li>How to support loved ones going through the wait for parenthood</li><li>The real costs and emotional toll of assisted reproductive technologies</li><li>Navigating common misconceptions and stereotypes about same-sex and single-parent families</li><li>Practical advice on how friends can listen better and avoid harmful assumptions</li><li>Personal stories illustrating the deep longing and sacrifice involved in their journey</li><li>Why some questions are deeply inappropriate, and how to approach conversations with compassion</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps</b></p><ul><li>(0:01) – Welcome and introduction to the space of waiting and shared experience</li><li>(1:01) – Discussing insensitive questions about the process and future hopes</li><li>(2:10) – Addressing common misconceptions about travel, finances, and life while waiting</li><li>(4:31) – The emotional toll behind assumptions and superficial comments</li><li>(8:28) – The true costs of fertility treatments and surrogacy—beyond money</li><li>(11:24) – Navigating invasive questions about parental roles and identity</li><li>(17:02) – How to explain a non-traditional family structure to a child</li><li>(19:23) – Balancing work, career, and the waiting process</li><li>(23:32) – Support strategies for friends and loved ones</li><li>(25:12) – Encouraging open communication and resources for both supporters and those waiting</li><li>(26:11) – Closing thoughts and ways to connect with the community</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank">Waiting with Love Website &amp; Substack</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://waitingwithlove.com/supporting" target="_blank">Supporting Someone Through Infertility (Guide)</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Boy+Crisis+Warren+Farrell" target="_blank">Book: <i>The Boy Crisis</i> by Warren Farrell (amazon)</a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a><p></p></li></ul><p>Remember, listening with compassion and offering support without judgment can make a significant difference in the lives of those navigating complex paths to parenthood. Your kindness and understanding matter more than you realize.</p>no00:26:4319Episode 9: Questions we Love to Hate (Part 2)full<![CDATA[Episode 8: Reflecting on Life at 40]]>Embracing Parenthood and Hope at 40: A Conversation on Waiting, Growth, and New Beginnings

In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew reflect on navigating the journey to parenthood later in life, turning 40, and finding hope and strength in the process of waiting. They share personal insights, challenges, and the many benefits of becoming parents at this stage, offering encouragement to others walking a similar path.

Key Topics:

  • The emotional and practical realities of waiting to become parents over 40
  • How life experiences and maturity shape parenting readiness
  • The impact of career stability and financial planning on delaying parenthood
  • The significance of living in the moment versus future expectations
  • How aging influences perspectives on longevity, energy, and relationships
  • The benefits of patience, resilience, and emotional depth gained through life's trials
  • Celebrating the unpredictability of life and embracing change
  • Famous examples of having children after 40 to inspire hope

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and introduction to the episode's theme of waiting and hope
02:10 - Reflections on life milestones and expectations at age 40
03:26 - Comparing visions of life 20 and 10 years ago
04:16 - Challenges and surprises in the parenthood journey
05:54 - Career trajectories and their influence on family planning
07:11 - Perspectives on mortality and aging in midlife
08:36 - Fears around energy and longevity for new parents
09:54 - The emotional and financial advantages of waiting
11:33 - Personal growth, patience, and resilience through challenges
13:21 - Building a stable future for children and the role of finances
15:17 - The value of living in the present and appreciating current moments
16:36 - How age influences energy levels and opportunities for play
18:10 - The importance of community, safety, and environment for raising kids
19:08 - How late parenthood can be advantageous financially and professionally
21:01 - Celebrating mutual career stability and readiness
22:49 - Insights on why the timing now feels right for parenthood
23:35 - Advice to younger selves: focusing on authentic happiness over impressing others
24:24 - The qualities that age and experience contribute to parenting
25:39 - Personal growth from fostering patience and genuine connections
26:34 - The profound impact of being present for children and family
27:47 - Recognizing that imperfection is part of the journey and embracing it
29:04 - Spotlight on celebrities who became parents after 40
29:21 - Wishing Matt a happy birthday and closing encouragement

Resources & Links:

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Remember, the journey to parenthood is unique for everyone. Embrace the timing that feels right for you, and find hope in each step forward.

]]>93e7558a-4a01-4115-a51c-c2163d97438aSun, 08 Mar 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Embracing Parenthood and Hope at 40: A Conversation on Waiting, Growth, and New Beginnings</b></p><p></p><p>In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew reflect on navigating the journey to parenthood later in life, turning 40, and finding hope and strength in the process of waiting. They share personal insights, challenges, and the many benefits of becoming parents at this stage, offering encouragement to others walking a similar path.</p><p></p><p><b>Key Topics:</b></p><ul><li><b>The emotional and practical realities of waiting to become parents over 40</b></li><li><b>How life experiences and maturity shape parenting readiness</b></li><li><b>The impact of career stability and financial planning on delaying parenthood</b></li><li><b>The significance of living in the moment versus future expectations</b></li><li><b>How aging influences perspectives on longevity, energy, and relationships</b></li><li><b>The benefits of patience, resilience, and emotional depth gained through life's trials</b></li><li><b>Celebrating the unpredictability of life and embracing change</b></li><li><b>Famous examples of having children after 40 to inspire hope</b></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Welcome and introduction to the episode's theme of waiting and hope<br />02:10 - Reflections on life milestones and expectations at age 40<br />03:26 - Comparing visions of life 20 and 10 years ago<br />04:16 - Challenges and surprises in the parenthood journey<br />05:54 - Career trajectories and their influence on family planning<br />07:11 - Perspectives on mortality and aging in midlife<br />08:36 - Fears around energy and longevity for new parents<br />09:54 - The emotional and financial advantages of waiting<br />11:33 - Personal growth, patience, and resilience through challenges<br />13:21 - Building a stable future for children and the role of finances<br />15:17 - The value of living in the present and appreciating current moments<br />16:36 - How age influences energy levels and opportunities for play<br />18:10 - The importance of community, safety, and environment for raising kids<br />19:08 - How late parenthood can be advantageous financially and professionally<br />21:01 - Celebrating mutual career stability and readiness<br />22:49 - Insights on why the timing now feels right for parenthood<br />23:35 - Advice to younger selves: focusing on authentic happiness over impressing others<br />24:24 - The qualities that age and experience contribute to parenting<br />25:39 - Personal growth from fostering patience and genuine connections<br />26:34 - The profound impact of being present for children and family<br />27:47 - Recognizing that imperfection is part of the journey and embracing it<br />29:04 - Spotlight on celebrities who became parents after 40<br />29:21 - Wishing Matt a happy birthday and closing encouragement</p><p></p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Website</b></a></li></ul><p></p><p><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul><hr /><p><b><i>Remember, the journey to parenthood is unique for everyone. Embrace the timing that feels right for you, and find hope in each step forward.</i></b></p>no00:30:0018Episode 8: Reflecting on Life at 40full<![CDATA[Episode 7: Questions we Love to Hate (Part 1)]]>Navigating Inconsiderate Questions During Fertility and Adoption Journeys

In this episode, Matt and Andrew shed light on the common questions friends and family ask that can unintentionally hurt those going through infertility, surrogacy or adoption. They offer practical, compassionate alternatives to foster understanding and support.

Key Topics

  • The impact of questions like "Any updates?" and why they can feel invasive
  • How presuming progress or timing can add emotional strain
  • The importance of silence and space vs. rigorous questioning
  • Why questions about "how long" or "why so long" may reflect lack of understanding
  • Shifting from questions to supportive statements and affirmations
  • Practical ways to show up compassionately without pressure
  • The significance of understanding legal, medical, and emotional complexities behind fertility processes
  • How to foster genuine connection through empathetic communication

Timestamps

00:00 - Introduction: The importance of thoughtful questions during waiting periods
00:45 - Why "Any updates?" can feel dismissive or invasive
02:15 - Presumptive questions and their emotional toll
03:45 - Alternatives to invasive questions: how to show support
05:30 - The role of silence and space in conversations about infertility
07:45 - Why "why is it taking so long?" misses the complexity
09:50 - Questions about agency quality and perceived incompetency
11:30 - Managing questions about how many tries or when to stop
13:10 - The importance of understanding legal and medical processes behind surrogacy and adoption
15:00 - Reframing questions into supportive statements
16:20 - Recognizing the emotional fragility behind these inquiries
17:45 - How to genuinely support someone without adding pressure
19:50 - Summary: The power of statements over questions
21:00 - Final thoughts: Offer presence, space, and empathy instead of problem-solving
27:20 - Closing remarks: The value of warmth and understanding in supporting loved ones

Resources & Links

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

Remember, the most meaningful support comes from offering understanding, space, and compassion. Instead of questions, consider statements that validate feelings and show genuine care.

]]>4dd2db0e-25fe-432d-a208-50f64d3b37e4Sun, 01 Mar 2026 14:00:00 GMT<h3><b>Navigating Inconsiderate Questions During Fertility and Adoption Journeys</b></h3><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew shed light on the common questions friends and family ask that can unintentionally hurt those going through infertility, surrogacy or adoption. They offer practical, compassionate alternatives to foster understanding and support.</p><h4><b>Key Topics</b></h4><ul><li>The impact of questions like "Any updates?" and why they can feel invasive</li><li>How presuming progress or timing can add emotional strain</li><li>The importance of silence and space vs. rigorous questioning</li><li>Why questions about "how long" or "why so long" may reflect lack of understanding</li><li>Shifting from questions to supportive statements and affirmations</li><li>Practical ways to show up compassionately without pressure</li><li>The significance of understanding legal, medical, and emotional complexities behind fertility processes</li><li>How to foster genuine connection through empathetic communication</li></ul><h4><b>Timestamps</b></h4><p>00:00 - Introduction: The importance of thoughtful questions during waiting periods<br />00:45 - Why "Any updates?" can feel dismissive or invasive<br />02:15 - Presumptive questions and their emotional toll<br />03:45 - Alternatives to invasive questions: how to show support<br />05:30 - The role of silence and space in conversations about infertility<br />07:45 - Why "why is it taking so long?" misses the complexity<br />09:50 - Questions about agency quality and perceived incompetency<br />11:30 - Managing questions about how many tries or when to stop<br />13:10 - The importance of understanding legal and medical processes behind surrogacy and adoption<br />15:00 - Reframing questions into supportive statements<br />16:20 - Recognizing the emotional fragility behind these inquiries<br />17:45 - How to genuinely support someone without adding pressure<br />19:50 - Summary: The power of statements over questions<br />21:00 - Final thoughts: Offer presence, space, and empathy instead of problem-solving<br />27:20 - Closing remarks: The value of warmth and understanding in supporting loved ones</p><h4><b>Resources &amp; Links</b></h4><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="www.waitingwithlove.com" target="_blank"><b>Waiting With Love Community</b></a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.aphroditewomenshealth.com/surrogacy-law-guide" target="_blank"><b>Understanding Surrogacy Law</b></a> (example link for context)</li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.resolve.org/support" target="_blank"><b>Emotional Support &amp; Fertility Resources</b></a></li></ul><h4><b>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</b></h4><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a><p></p></li></ul><hr /><p><i>Remember, the most meaningful support comes from offering understanding, space, and compassion. Instead of questions, consider statements that validate feelings and show genuine care.</i></p>no00:28:4117Episode 7: Questions we Love to Hate (Part 1)full<![CDATA[Episode 6: Why Traditional Advice Falls Flat]]>In this episode of "Waiting with Love," Matt and Andrew explore the emotional landscape of long-term infertility and the importance of community, fellowship, and shared experience. They discuss the limitations of conventional advice and highlight the power of compassion, laughter, and authentic connection in navigating challenging journeys.

KEY TOPICS

  • The impact of unsolicited and superficial advice during infertility struggles
  • The importance of fellowship and shared experiences in emotional resilience
  • The role of laughter, validation, and non-judgmental support
  • Navigating logistical stresses and emotional rollercoasters in international surrogacy
  • How honest conversations and connection reduce feelings of isolation
  • The significance of accepting what cannot be changed and focusing on what can
  • The benefits of meditation, spiritual moments, and grounding practices
  • Encouragement to prioritize genuine support over well-meaning but unhelpful questions

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Welcome and overview of navigating waiting with hope and community
01:09 - Differentiating advice from genuine fellowship and understanding
02:09 - Why traditional advice often falls flat in difficult journeys
03:23 - The frustration of unanswered questions about fertility setbacks
04:18 - Parallels between building a house and the fertility process
05:41 - The comfort found in fellowship with others who understand
07:19 - The power of shared stories and normalization in community
08:40 - How connection reduces feelings of loneliness, even with children
09:46 - The importance of validation and feeling witnessed
11:07 - The role of laughter and humor during setbacks
12:24 - Shared experiences in addiction, recovery, and infertility
13:41 - The complexity and divine work behind surrogacy and biological processes
15:22 - The unpredictability and logistical stresses of international surrogacy
16:32 - Moving beyond stress through community and mutual understanding
18:28 - Recognizing that no levers remain to accelerate the journey
19:13 - The serenity prayer and acceptance of what can’t be changed
20:39 - The value of grounding practices like meditation and spiritual moments
22:40 - The importance of living in the present and allowing support to scratch the itch
23:33 - Practical grounding tips: meditation and self-care strategies
24:18 - Final thoughts: You are not alone—reach out, connect, and keep waiting with love

RESOURCES & LINKS

Connect with Matt & Andrew:

]]>36269532-583a-423b-b5b6-b0b60cc597a3Sun, 22 Feb 2026 14:00:00 GMT<p>In this episode of "Waiting with Love," Matt and Andrew explore the emotional landscape of long-term infertility and the importance of community, fellowship, and shared experience. They discuss the limitations of conventional advice and highlight the power of compassion, laughter, and authentic connection in navigating challenging journeys.</p><p></p><p>KEY TOPICS</p><ul><li>The impact of unsolicited and superficial advice during infertility struggles</li><li>The importance of fellowship and shared experiences in emotional resilience</li><li>The role of laughter, validation, and non-judgmental support</li><li>Navigating logistical stresses and emotional rollercoasters in international surrogacy</li><li>How honest conversations and connection reduce feelings of isolation</li><li>The significance of accepting what cannot be changed and focusing on what can</li><li>The benefits of meditation, spiritual moments, and grounding practices</li><li>Encouragement to prioritize genuine support over well-meaning but unhelpful questions</li></ul><p></p><p>TIMESTAMPS</p><p>00:00 - Welcome and overview of navigating waiting with hope and community<br />01:09 - Differentiating advice from genuine fellowship and understanding<br />02:09 - Why traditional advice often falls flat in difficult journeys<br />03:23 - The frustration of unanswered questions about fertility setbacks<br />04:18 - Parallels between building a house and the fertility process<br />05:41 - The comfort found in fellowship with others who understand<br />07:19 - The power of shared stories and normalization in community<br />08:40 - How connection reduces feelings of loneliness, even with children<br />09:46 - The importance of validation and feeling witnessed<br />11:07 - The role of laughter and humor during setbacks<br />12:24 - Shared experiences in addiction, recovery, and infertility<br />13:41 - The complexity and divine work behind surrogacy and biological processes<br />15:22 - The unpredictability and logistical stresses of international surrogacy<br />16:32 - Moving beyond stress through community and mutual understanding<br />18:28 - Recognizing that no levers remain to accelerate the journey<br />19:13 - The serenity prayer and acceptance of what can’t be changed<br />20:39 - The value of grounding practices like meditation and spiritual moments<br />22:40 - The importance of living in the present and allowing support to scratch the itch<br />23:33 - Practical grounding tips: meditation and self-care strategies<br />24:18 - Final thoughts: You are not alone—reach out, connect, and keep waiting with love</p><p></p><p>RESOURCES &amp; LINKS</p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank">Waiting with Love - Website</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.headspace.com/" target="_blank">Meditation apps</a> and guided meditations on YouTube</li></ul><p></p><p>Connect with Matt &amp; Andrew:</p><ul><li>Email us: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="mailto:hope@waitingwithlove.com" target="_blank">hope@waitingwithlove.com</a><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul></li></ul>no00:25:0916Episode 6: Why Traditional Advice Falls Flatfull<![CDATA[Episode 5: Life Continues]]>Navigating Life While Waiting: Embracing Feelings and Continuing Forward

In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew explore how life's inevitable hardships—like loss and illness—intersect with ongoing journeys of hope, such as fertility or family building. They emphasize the importance of allowing oneself to feel, process, and live fully even amidst pain, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to grief and responsibilities.

In this episode:

  • How life continues despite significant challenges like death and illness
  • The importance of processing emotions rather than suppressing them
  • Strategies for staying present and living intentionally during tough times
  • The difference between healthy distraction and unhealthy avoidance
  • Lessons learned from past setbacks in fertility and family journeys
  • The role of focus, perspective, and community support during grieving
  • How to manage obsession over processes and embrace surprises
  • Practical advice for balancing grief with daily responsibilities

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: Why it's important to navigate life amidst challenges
01:10 - Continuing life after a family member's death and personal health issues
01:54 - The balance between grieving and carrying on
02:49 - Early in the journey: unhealthy coping mechanisms and lessons learned
03:23 - The importance of feeling feelings and not compartmentalizing
04:16 - Finding grounding through shared family time and positive distractions
04:51 - Perspective shifts: recognizing life's surprises beyond fertility struggles
05:18 - The value of life continuing to help process grief and maintain hope
06:18 - Moving from obsession to healthy engagement with the process
07:01 - The dangers of being obsessed with updates and control
08:10 - Personal reactions to shocking news: fixer mentality vs. emotional processing
08:57 - Practical steps taken during crises: cooking, logistics, and support
11:27 - Different ways people process hardship: avoiding and breaking down
12:48 - The importance of authentic living and allowing feelings to surface
13:17 - Past setbacks, like issues with an exchange student, and living in the moment
14:08 - Supporting others while managing your own grief
15:15 - Pretending vs. genuine presence in difficult moments
16:09 - The importance of resilience and muscle memory for future setbacks
17:19 - Continuing to live through grief and supporting others
18:30 - Finding healthy outlets and perspective shifts
19:30 - The concept of life's terms and acceptance of setbacks
20:37 - Reflection on the unpredictability of fertility journeys and timing
21:13 - Embracing setbacks as part of growth and life’s journey
22:28 - Balancing genuine emotions with daily responsibilities
23:10 - Hope and grief can coexist; importance of processing emotions

Resources & Links:

Connect:

]]>8d1f703b-bb11-4557-8644-ab0d93bd5d16Sun, 15 Feb 2026 13:00:00 GMT<p><b>Navigating Life While Waiting: Embracing Feelings and Continuing Forward</b></p><p>In this heartfelt episode, Matt and Andrew explore how life's inevitable hardships—like loss and illness—intersect with ongoing journeys of hope, such as fertility or family building. They emphasize the importance of allowing oneself to feel, process, and live fully even amidst pain, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to grief and responsibilities.</p><p><b>In this episode:</b></p><ul><li>How life continues despite significant challenges like death and illness</li><li>The importance of processing emotions rather than suppressing them</li><li>Strategies for staying present and living intentionally during tough times</li><li>The difference between healthy distraction and unhealthy avoidance</li><li>Lessons learned from past setbacks in fertility and family journeys</li><li>The role of focus, perspective, and community support during grieving</li><li>How to manage obsession over processes and embrace surprises</li><li>Practical advice for balancing grief with daily responsibilities</li></ul><p><b>Timestamps:</b></p><p>00:00 - Introduction: Why it's important to navigate life amidst challenges<br />01:10 - Continuing life after a family member's death and personal health issues<br />01:54 - The balance between grieving and carrying on<br />02:49 - Early in the journey: unhealthy coping mechanisms and lessons learned<br />03:23 - The importance of feeling feelings and not compartmentalizing<br />04:16 - Finding grounding through shared family time and positive distractions<br />04:51 - Perspective shifts: recognizing life's surprises beyond fertility struggles<br />05:18 - The value of life continuing to help process grief and maintain hope<br />06:18 - Moving from obsession to healthy engagement with the process<br />07:01 - The dangers of being obsessed with updates and control<br />08:10 - Personal reactions to shocking news: fixer mentality vs. emotional processing<br />08:57 - Practical steps taken during crises: cooking, logistics, and support<br />11:27 - Different ways people process hardship: avoiding and breaking down<br />12:48 - The importance of authentic living and allowing feelings to surface<br />13:17 - Past setbacks, like issues with an exchange student, and living in the moment<br />14:08 - Supporting others while managing your own grief<br />15:15 - Pretending vs. genuine presence in difficult moments<br />16:09 - The importance of resilience and muscle memory for future setbacks<br />17:19 - Continuing to live through grief and supporting others<br />18:30 - Finding healthy outlets and perspective shifts<br />19:30 - The concept of life's terms and acceptance of setbacks<br />20:37 - Reflection on the unpredictability of fertility journeys and timing<br />21:13 - Embracing setbacks as part of growth and life’s journey<br />22:28 - Balancing genuine emotions with daily responsibilities<br />23:10 - Hope and grief can coexist; importance of processing emotions</p><p><b>Resources &amp; Links:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.waitingwithlove.com/" target="_blank">Waiting With Love Website</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=emotional+resilience&amp;ref=nb_sb_noss_2" target="_blank">Amazon - Emotional Resilience Books</a></li></ul><p><b>Connect:</b></p><ul><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/waiting_withlove" target="_blank">Instagram</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585969594908" target="_blank">Facebook</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@waitingwithlove" target="_blank">TikTok</a></li><li><a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.youtube.com/@WaitingWithLove" target="_blank">YouTube</a></li></ul>yes00:24:0115Episode 5: Life Continuesfull<![CDATA[Episode 4: When Hope turns to Cynicism and Grief ]]>Summary

In this conversation, Andrew and Matt reflect on their decade-long journey of trying to become parents through adoption and surrogacy. They discuss the emotional evolution from initial hope and excitement to a more guarded cynicism, and ultimately to a place of acceptance and finding joy in the present. They explore the coping mechanisms they've developed, the impact of setbacks, and the importance of living in the moment while waiting for their dreams to materialize.

Takeaways

The emotional journey of trying to have a child evolves over time. Initial excitement can turn into cynicism due to setbacks. Coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as excitement. A phone call from the agency is often bad news.

Living in the moment is crucial while waiting for a child.

Setbacks have become easier to handle over time. It's important to separate hope from guarantees. Personal growth occurs during the waiting period. Comparison to others can lead to resentment and cynicism.

Finding joy in the present can help alleviate anxiety about the future.

Sound bites

"Do we want a baby? Yes."

"What gives you hope today?"

"We are where we are."

Chapters

00:00 The Journey Begins: From Hope to Cynicism

05:45 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Adoption

10:00 Coping Mechanisms: Cynicism and Realism

17:04 Finding Hope Amidst Uncertainty

22:05 Living in the Moment: Building a Life While Waiting

Keywords

adoption, surrogacy, hope, cynicism, emotional journey, parenting, coping mechanisms, personal growth, waiting, life lessons.

]]>cbf75c86-521e-44f1-96c8-7ad5fdb6326fSun, 08 Feb 2026 14:30:00 GMT<p>Summary</p><p>In this conversation, Andrew and Matt reflect on their decade-long journey of trying to become parents through adoption and surrogacy. They discuss the emotional evolution from initial hope and excitement to a more guarded cynicism, and ultimately to a place of acceptance and finding joy in the present. They explore the coping mechanisms they've developed, the impact of setbacks, and the importance of living in the moment while waiting for their dreams to materialize.</p><p></p><p>Takeaways</p><p>The emotional journey of trying to have a child evolves over time. Initial excitement can turn into cynicism due to setbacks. Coping mechanisms can disguise themselves as excitement. A phone call from the agency is often bad news.</p><p>Living in the moment is crucial while waiting for a child.</p><p>Setbacks have become easier to handle over time. It's important to separate hope from guarantees. Personal growth occurs during the waiting period. Comparison to others can lead to resentment and cynicism.</p><p></p><p>Finding joy in the present can help alleviate anxiety about the future.</p><p></p><p>Sound bites</p><p>"Do we want a baby? Yes."</p><p>"What gives you hope today?"</p><p>"We are where we are."</p><p></p><p>Chapters</p><p>00:00 The Journey Begins: From Hope to Cynicism</p><p>05:45 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Adoption</p><p>10:00 Coping Mechanisms: Cynicism and Realism</p><p>17:04 Finding Hope Amidst Uncertainty</p><p>22:05 Living in the Moment: Building a Life While Waiting</p><p></p><p>Keywords</p><p>adoption, surrogacy, hope, cynicism, emotional journey, parenting, coping mechanisms, personal growth, waiting, life lessons.</p>no00:23:3014Episode 4: When Hope turns to Cynicism and Grief full<![CDATA[Episode 3: The Expectations vs Reality Gap]]>Summary

In this episode, Andrew and Matt discuss the complexities of navigating conversations around infertility and surrogacy, particularly within the LGBTQ community. They explore the expectation gap between reality and what one hopes for, the challenges of seeking support from family and friends, and the importance of compassionate listening. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding and patience from those who wish to support individuals on this journey, highlighting that silence does not equate to a lack of progress. The episode concludes with a call for community support and sharing experiences to help others in similar situations.

Takeaways

The expectation gap between reality and hopes can be challenging. Conversations about infertility can feel high stakes. Support from friends and family is often well-intentioned but can miss the mark. It's important to articulate what kind of support is needed. Questions about the process can feel invasive and overwhelming.

Compassionate listening is more valuable than probing questions.

Silence from loved ones doesn't mean there is no progress.

The journey of infertility is often filled with emotional ups and downs. Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone. Community support is crucial for those navigating infertility.

Sound bites

"It's a hard thing to talk about."

"Everyone has good intentions."

"It's a very long journey for you."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Gratitude

00:57 The Expectation Gap in Infertility

02:52 Navigating Conversations About Infertility

05:19 Desiring Support Without Probing Questions

09:11 Understanding the Complexity of Surrogacy

11:08 The Challenge of Well-Intentioned Questions

12:36 The Need for Compassionate Support

14:00 How to Check In Without Pressure

Keywords

infertility, LGBTQ, surrogacy, support, expectations, family, conversations, emotional journey, compassion, community

]]>4bd68d5d-3265-4e05-9da2-fbadea254f4dMon, 02 Feb 2026 14:31:02 GMT<p>Summary</p><p>In this episode, Andrew and Matt discuss the complexities of navigating conversations around infertility and surrogacy, particularly within the LGBTQ community. They explore the expectation gap between reality and what one hopes for, the challenges of seeking support from family and friends, and the importance of compassionate listening. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding and patience from those who wish to support individuals on this journey, highlighting that silence does not equate to a lack of progress. The episode concludes with a call for community support and sharing experiences to help others in similar situations.</p><p>Takeaways</p><p>The expectation gap between reality and hopes can be challenging. Conversations about infertility can feel high stakes. Support from friends and family is often well-intentioned but can miss the mark. It's important to articulate what kind of support is needed. Questions about the process can feel invasive and overwhelming.</p><p>Compassionate listening is more valuable than probing questions.</p><p></p><p>Silence from loved ones doesn't mean there is no progress.</p><p>The journey of infertility is often filled with emotional ups and downs. Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone. Community support is crucial for those navigating infertility.</p><p></p><p>Sound bites</p><p>"It's a hard thing to talk about."</p><p>"Everyone has good intentions."</p><p>"It's a very long journey for you."</p><p></p><p>Chapters</p><p>00:00 Introduction and Gratitude</p><p>00:57 The Expectation Gap in Infertility</p><p>02:52 Navigating Conversations About Infertility</p><p>05:19 Desiring Support Without Probing Questions</p><p>09:11 Understanding the Complexity of Surrogacy</p><p>11:08 The Challenge of Well-Intentioned Questions</p><p>12:36 The Need for Compassionate Support</p><p>14:00 How to Check In Without Pressure</p><p></p><p>Keywords</p><p>infertility, LGBTQ, surrogacy, support, expectations, family, conversations, emotional journey, compassion, community</p><p></p>no00:16:2613Episode 3: The Expectations vs Reality Gapfull<![CDATA[Episode 2: No Regrets]]>Summary

In this episode, Matt and Andrew reflect on their journey through the complexities of building a family, particularly focusing on the concept of 'no regrets'. They share personal anecdotes from their experiences with adoption, including the emotional rollercoaster of being matched with birth mothers and the subsequent challenges they faced. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing what can be controlled in uncertain situations and how to shift perspectives from regret to learning experiences. They emphasize the need to balance living in the moment while planning for the future, especially when navigating the financial and emotional aspects of family building. As they delve deeper into their experiences, Matt and Andrew discuss the mental shifts they've made to embrace a more positive outlook. They talk about the significance of creating a fulfilling life outside of their family-building journey, including travel and personal growth. The episode serves as a candid exploration of the ups and downs of their path, offering insights and encouragement to others in similar situations.

Keywords

family building, no regret work, adoption journey, emotional challenges, personal growth, parenting, uncertainty, mental health, travel experiences, LGBTQ+ parenting

Takeaways

  • 'What can we do that no matter what the outcome is, we wouldn't regret doing?'
  • 'We were desperately trying to control this process.'
  • 'Every lesson has its purpose.'
  • 'We have to remind ourselves that we also still have a marriage.'
  • 'It's important to find what your passions are.'

Sound Bites

  • "What can we do that no matter what the outcome is?"
  • "We were desperately trying to control this process."
  • "Everything we did was all about we're gonna have kids one day."

Chapters

00:00Introduction and Reflections on the Journey

08:48Shifting Perspectives on Regret

15:53Embracing Life Beyond Family Building

]]>7a9e8dcb-6fff-4bca-ad4b-9b867f26c3c7Sun, 25 Jan 2026 15:00:00 GMT<p><b>Summary</b></p><p></p><p>In this episode, Matt and Andrew reflect on their journey through the complexities of building a family, particularly focusing on the concept of 'no regrets'. They share personal anecdotes from their experiences with adoption, including the emotional rollercoaster of being matched with birth mothers and the subsequent challenges they faced. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing what can be controlled in uncertain situations and how to shift perspectives from regret to learning experiences. They emphasize the need to balance living in the moment while planning for the future, especially when navigating the financial and emotional aspects of family building. As they delve deeper into their experiences, Matt and Andrew discuss the mental shifts they've made to embrace a more positive outlook. They talk about the significance of creating a fulfilling life outside of their family-building journey, including travel and personal growth. The episode serves as a candid exploration of the ups and downs of their path, offering insights and encouragement to others in similar situations.</p><p></p><p><b>Keywords</b></p><p></p><p>family building, no regret work, adoption journey, emotional challenges, personal growth, parenting, uncertainty, mental health, travel experiences, LGBTQ+ parenting</p><p><b>Takeaways</b></p><p></p><ul><li>'What can we do that no matter what the outcome is, we wouldn't regret doing?'</li><li>'We were desperately trying to control this process.'</li><li>'Every lesson has its purpose.'</li><li>'We have to remind ourselves that we also still have a marriage.'</li><li>'It's important to find what your passions are.'</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Sound Bites</b></p><ul><li>"What can we do that no matter what the outcome is?"</li><li>"We were desperately trying to control this process."</li><li>"Everything we did was all about we're gonna have kids one day."</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Chapters</b></p><p><b>00:00</b>Introduction and Reflections on the Journey</p><p><b>08:48</b>Shifting Perspectives on Regret</p><p><b>15:53</b>Embracing Life Beyond Family Building</p>no00:24:0912Episode 2: No Regretsfull<![CDATA[Episode 1: Getting Started]]>Summary

In the first full-length podcast, Matt and Andrew reflect on their journey into the world of podcasting, sharing the challenges they faced in selecting topics and building credibility. They discuss the complexities of going public with their personal experiences surrounding adoption and surrogacy, emphasizing the emotional weight of sharing their story. The duo candidly admits that the process has been more difficult than anticipated, revealing their struggles with technology and communication as they navigate their new venture. They aim to create a space for shared experiences, focusing on authenticity rather than simply providing educational content about adoption and surrogacy.

Keywords

podcasting, adoption, surrogacy, personal journey, LGBTQ parenting, shared experiences, credibility, emotional challenges, starting a podcast, navigating parenthood

Takeaways

  • It's harder to start a podcast than we thought.
  • Building credibility is a challenge when sharing personal stories.
  • Going public about our journey is both scary and liberating.
  • We want to create a space for shared experiences, not just educational content.
  • Finding the right topics to discuss has been a struggle.

Sound Bites

  • "It's harder to start a podcast than we thought."
  • "We don't want this to be just an academic lecture."
  • "This journey's lasted now over 10 years."

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to Our Podcast Journey

01:51 The Challenges of Topic Selection

06:58 Building Credibility and Authenticity

12:18 Navigating Personal Experiences

17:28 Going Public with Our Story

Socials

Instagram @waiting_withlove

Facebook: Waiting with Love

]]>8d6a8b27-1136-4de9-a6aa-792552153dafSun, 18 Jan 2026 16:39:05 GMT<p><b>Summary</b></p><p>In the first full-length podcast, Matt and Andrew reflect on their journey into the world of podcasting, sharing the challenges they faced in selecting topics and building credibility. They discuss the complexities of going public with their personal experiences surrounding adoption and surrogacy, emphasizing the emotional weight of sharing their story. The duo candidly admits that the process has been more difficult than anticipated, revealing their struggles with technology and communication as they navigate their new venture. They aim to create a space for shared experiences, focusing on authenticity rather than simply providing educational content about adoption and surrogacy.</p><p></p><p><b>Keywords</b></p><p>podcasting, adoption, surrogacy, personal journey, LGBTQ parenting, shared experiences, credibility, emotional challenges, starting a podcast, navigating parenthood</p><p><b>Takeaways</b></p><ul><li>It's harder to start a podcast than we thought.</li><li>Building credibility is a challenge when sharing personal stories.</li><li>Going public about our journey is both scary and liberating.</li><li>We want to create a space for shared experiences, not just educational content.</li><li>Finding the right topics to discuss has been a struggle.</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Sound Bites</b></p><ul><li>"It's harder to start a podcast than we thought."</li><li>"We don't want this to be just an academic lecture."</li><li>"This journey's lasted now over 10 years."</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Chapters</b></p><p><b>00:00 </b>Welcome to Our Podcast Journey</p><p><b>01:51 </b>The Challenges of Topic Selection</p><p><b>06:58 </b>Building Credibility and Authenticity</p><p><b>12:18 </b>Navigating Personal Experiences</p><p><b>17:28 </b>Going Public with Our Story</p><p></p><p><b>Socials</b></p><p>Instagram @waiting_withlove</p><p>Facebook: Waiting with Love</p>no00:21:2411Episode 1: Getting Startedfull<![CDATA[Waiting with Love: Episode 0]]>In this inaugural episode of 'Waiting with Love', hosts Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of waiting to build a family over the past decade. They discuss the emotional challenges, the silence surrounding their struggles, and the importance of creating a supportive community for those navigating similar experiences. The episode emphasizes the coexistence of hope and grief during the waiting process and invites listeners to join them in a fellowship of shared experiences.

Takeaways

  • You don't have to wait without hope.
  • Waiting for a family can be a long and emotional journey.
  • Silence can often feel protective but may actually harm us.
  • Social media often showcases only success stories, not the struggles.
  • Creating a space for shared experiences is essential.
  • There is a lack of public support for those still waiting.
  • This podcast is for those in the messy middle of waiting.
  • It's important to seek professional help when needed.
  • Life continues, and joy can still be found during waiting.
  • Hope and grief can coexist in the waiting process.

Sound Bites

  • "You don't have to wait without hope."
  • "Silence was actually the opposite of protection."
  • "This space doesn't exist and it's needed."

Chapters

00:00Introduction to Waiting with Love

01:20The Journey of Waiting for a Family

05:05Navigating the Emotional Weight of Waiting

09:13Creating a Space for Shared Experiences

11:05Hope and Grief Coexisting in the Waiting Room

Socials

Instagram @waiting_withlove

Facebook: Waiting with Love

]]>bf715e48-71ab-477d-8aab-5a0450a4d324Sun, 11 Jan 2026 15:32:53 GMT<p>In this inaugural episode of 'Waiting with Love', hosts Matt and Andrew share their personal journey of waiting to build a family over the past decade. They discuss the emotional challenges, the silence surrounding their struggles, and the importance of creating a supportive community for those navigating similar experiences. The episode emphasizes the coexistence of hope and grief during the waiting process and invites listeners to join them in a fellowship of shared experiences.</p><p></p><p><b>Takeaways</b></p><ul><li>You don't have to wait without hope.</li><li>Waiting for a family can be a long and emotional journey.</li><li>Silence can often feel protective but may actually harm us.</li><li>Social media often showcases only success stories, not the struggles.</li><li>Creating a space for shared experiences is essential.</li><li>There is a lack of public support for those still waiting.</li><li>This podcast is for those in the messy middle of waiting.</li><li>It's important to seek professional help when needed.</li><li>Life continues, and joy can still be found during waiting.</li><li>Hope and grief can coexist in the waiting process.</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Sound Bites</b></p><ul><li>"You don't have to wait without hope."</li><li>"Silence was actually the opposite of protection."</li><li>"This space doesn't exist and it's needed."</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Chapters</b></p><p><b>00:00</b>Introduction to Waiting with Love</p><p><b>01:20</b>The Journey of Waiting for a Family</p><p><b>05:05</b>Navigating the Emotional Weight of Waiting</p><p><b>09:13</b>Creating a Space for Shared Experiences</p><p><b>11:05</b>Hope and Grief Coexisting in the Waiting Room</p><p></p><p><b>Socials</b></p><p>Instagram @waiting_withlove</p><p>Facebook: Waiting with Love</p>no00:12:461Waiting with Love: Episode 0full