MY SELF CARE SH*T with Kathy Love

Fashion is True Self Care with Jessica Papineau

Kathy Love — Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:36:31 GMT

What if true self-care isn’t just what you do internally, but how you choose to show up in the world?

In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Jessica Papineau to explore confidence, visibility, and the emotional connection between how we see ourselves and how we present ourselves.

Jessica Papineau is the founder of CSJ Styling, a leading personal styling company dedicated to empowering female entrepreneurs on a mission to change the world. With over 25 years in the fashion industry, she has helped thousands of women harness the power of style to serve their purpose, boost their confidence, and elevate their image. From seven-figure entrepreneurs and executives of billion-dollar global brands to influential creators and leaders in entertainment, sports, and music, Jessica’s expertise transforms wardrobes into a strategic tool for success.

She understands that style is more than clothing—it’s a catalyst for confidence, visibility, and impact. By curating wardrobes that align with each client’s vision, Jessica helps high-achieving women step fully into their power, show up with clarity, and make a lasting impression in every aspect of their lives.

A recognized thought leader in personal styling, Jessica has been featured on ABC News, She Means Business Magazine July 2025 Cover, Voice of Changes - Top 40 Speakers, spotlighted in top podcasts, and listed among MSN’s Top 10 Self-Made Women to Follow in 2025 and in top entrepreneurial publications such as LA Wire, Women's Journal, She Means Business, and NY Weekly. Jessica was featured in the book "Slaying Sarasota," and was a nominee for Sarasota Magazine’s ‘Women Who Roar’ Leadership Award. She continues to drive conversations about the intersection of style, confidence, and personal growth. Through CSJ Styling, she is redefining what it means to cultivate a wardrobe that not only looks extraordinary but serves as a tool for personal and professional transformation.

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Becoming Magnetic Through Alignment

When women align how they feel internally with how they present externally, they naturally become more confident, visible, and open to new opportunities.

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Kathy Love is a self-care coach, speaker, author, and host of the Self-Care Sht* podcast. She helps people reconnect to themselves, build self-trust, and create lives rooted in purpose, boundaries, and emotional well-being.

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Fine Is a Trap: Boundaries, Breath, and Becoming Your Own Permission Slip with Lauren Lefkowitz

Kathy Love — Sun, 05 Oct 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Executive coach and fractional CHRO Lauren Lefkowitz gets real about how “fine” keeps high-achievers stuck—and what it actually takes to build a sustainable career and life. Lauren shares the jaw-dropping moment that forced her to stop people-pleasing (yes, it involved a Roomba and two broken shoulders), and how she rebuilt with boundaries, therapy, guided meditation, accountability, and celebration. We unpack codependency at work, the fear of being labeled “lazy,” and why saying no isn’t mean—it’s mature. You’ll learn Lauren’s simple Notice → Decide → Do framework, how to use the pause/breath before you act, and why the feelings wheel belongs in every leader’s toolkit. If you’ve ever said “it’s fine” while your body screams otherwise, this conversation is your loving wake-up call. (Grab Lauren’s free Fine Is A Trap inventory and connect with her—links in the show notes.)

3 Key Takeaways:

Notice → Decide → Do (with a Pause).
Slow down first. Notice what you’re saying yes to, decide what truly serves you, then do—after a breath.
Boundaries aren’t lazy—they’re leadership.
Redefine “selfish” as self-honoring. A clear no protects your health, work, and relationships—and you’re still worthy even if others don’t like it.
Support and celebration are self-care.
Therapy, accountability partners, sleep, guided meditation, the feelings wheel—and yes, celebrating wins (even small ones) rewires “fine” into thriving.

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Trailer: Welcome to My Self-Care Sh*t the podcast

Kathy Love — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 19:00:00 GMT

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Welcome to the first episode of My Self-Care Shit, the podcast where we dive deep into what true self-care really looks like—and it’s not just about bubble baths and massages. I’m your host, Kathy Love, and this is the beginning of a journey we’re going to take together. In this first episode, I talk about how I finally hit record after months of procrastination, the journey that led me to truly understand self-care, and why it’s so much more than the clichés we often hear. I’ll share how small, simple practices changed everything for me. Each week, we’ll explore a new aspect of self-care and learn how to make it our own—whether that’s through journaling, setting boundaries, or learning to listen to our true needs. This is just the beginning, so I’m glad you’re here.

In this episode, Kathy shares:

Overcoming Procrastination: Kathy discusses the delay in starting her podcast, the fear of getting it perfect, and how she finally decided to stop waiting and just hit record.
What Self-Care Really Is: Kathy talks about how she initially misunderstood self-care and how, through trial and error, she discovered what it truly means to take care of herself—focusing on simple, accessible actions that made a real difference.
Reconnecting with You: Kathy shares her personal experience with reconnecting with herself, and how self-care is about discovering what you need to feel peaceful, healthy, and whole.
Finding What Works for You: This episode emphasizes the idea that self-care is a journey. Kathy explores how she made a list of things that made her feel peaceful and happy, which eventually became My Self-Care Shit: The Workbook.
The Importance of Knowing Yourself: One of the biggest lessons Kathy has learned is that self-care is about knowing who you are, what you need, and what you want, which often means learning to prioritize yourself after years of putting others first.

Key Takeaways:

Self-care is a practice of reconnecting with yourself, not just pampering yourself.
Learning to be alone and embrace stillness is a huge part of self-care.
Self-care can be simple, cost-effective, and accessible—it's all about finding what works for you.
It's normal to struggle with self-care. The important part is the willingness to keep searching for what resonates with you.

If you're ready to start your own self-care journey, stay tuned for more episodes. Subscribe to My Self-Care Shit to learn how to prioritize your peace, joy, and well-being in simple ways that fit into your everyday life. Please leave a review—it helps others find the show and start their own journey too.

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Falling in Love with Yourself: Codependency, Self-Discovery, and Personal Growth with Doug Skoke

Kathy Love — Sun, 26 Oct 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In this heartfelt and raw conversation, Doug and I explore the journey of self-discovery, breaking free from codependency, and the power of truly knowing yourself. Doug shares his story of how he spent most of his life letting others define him, until he had a profound awakening that led him to embrace self-love and ownership of his identity. We dive into the importance of personality assessments like the MBTI, the Enneagram, and even human design in helping us understand ourselves at a deeper level. We also touch on relationships—how codependency shows up in partnerships, and how true self-care isn’t about avoiding conflict, but embracing it with honesty and compassion. Doug’s evolution from people-pleasing to owning his boundaries and trusting his intuition in business and life is a powerful reminder of the transformative impact of self-love.

3 Key Takeaways:

Self-love begins with knowing yourself.
Doug’s journey highlights that falling in love with yourself starts with understanding your personality, your strengths, and the way you process the world. The more you know, the more confidently you can make decisions aligned with who you truly are.
Codependency stems from letting others define you.
Codependency often arises when we disconnect from our true selves and allow others' expectations to shape who we are. The path to healing begins with reclaiming your identity and trusting your own judgment.
True self-care involves tough conversations.
True self-care isn’t always easy or comfortable. It’s about setting boundaries, engaging in difficult conversations, and honoring your needs, even when it means stepping into discomfort to protect your peace.

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Alchemizing the Not-So-Pretty Parts with Erica Bonham

Kathy Love — Sun, 07 Dec 2025 10:00:00 GMT

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In this raw and soul-stirring episode of the Self-Care Sht* podcast, host Kathy Love sits down with Erica Bonham, a therapist, author, and somatic trauma specialist whose work blends science, spirituality, and deep humanity. Together they unpack what it really means to heal the “not-so-pretty parts” of ourselves—those stories, sensations, and inherited wounds that live beneath the surface.

Erica shares how her own journey through adoption, sobriety, and family trauma shaped her mission to help others integrate body, mind, and heart. She explains ancestral and epigenetic trauma in down-to-earth language and offers powerful ways to reconnect to the body when talking therapy isn’t enough. From rage as sacred energy to shaking, laughing, and crying your way toward wholeness, this conversation is a masterclass in embodied healing.

🔑 Key Takeaways

We All Have “Stuff.” Healing isn’t about erasing pain—it’s about metabolizing it so it can transform.
Trauma Lives in the Body. You can’t think your way out of trauma; you have to feel and move through it.
Find Your Own Medicine. Meditation, dancing, shaking, screaming, or stillness—whatever helps you release energy is valid.
Slow Is Fast. Real healing takes time; rushing the process only recreates the trauma.
At the Center of the Shadow Is Sweetness. When we compost the hard parts, we uncover love, levity, and liberation.

Erica Bonham is passionate about walking folks through the beautiful, messy process of turning wounds into wisdom so that we can all remember our true nature—that we are always and already enough AND we still have work to do. Her work bridges personal healing with collective transformation and invites us to remember that the world needs us here in our fullest expression. She is a nationally sought-after speaker, licensed professional counselor, certified EMDR clinician, consultant, trainer, bestselling author, and nervous system regulation coach. She’s passionate about redefining leadership as a practice of presence, resilience, equity, and joy.

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The Year of Dating Myself: Rediscovering Self-Love Through Solo Adventures with Abby Rosmarin

Kathy Love — Sun, 19 Oct 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Author and writer Abby Rosmarin takes us through the healing journey that led to her new book, The Year of Dating Myself: How My Solo Tour Healed More Than Just My Heartbreak. After years of jumping from relationship to relationship, Abby decided to break the cycle and take a year to rediscover herself—not through dating others, but by dating herself. In this conversation, Abby shares her raw experience of learning to be comfortable in her own company, setting boundaries, and letting go of old patterns. From solo concert dates to deep introspection, Abby walks us through how she learned to love herself first, and how that self-love set the stage for the best relationship of her life. This conversation is a powerful reminder that true self-care is about reconnecting with yourself, breaking old cycles, and embracing loneliness without fear.

3 Key Takeaways:

Breaking the Cycle of Codependency
Abby's journey highlights the importance of breaking free from the cycle of seeking validation through relationships. By dating herself, she finally gave herself permission to be whole, independent, and enough.
The Power of Solo Adventures
Taking solo dates—like attending a concert alone—was both uncomfortable and empowering for Abby. It’s about proving to yourself that you’re worthy of your own love and company, without needing anyone else to complete you.
Healing from Loneliness, Not Escaping It
Embracing loneliness can be incredibly painful, but Abby shows us how leaning into this discomfort is crucial for growth. True self-love isn’t about avoiding loneliness, but about learning to sit with it and grow stronger because of it.

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Recognizing Codependency in Your First Thoughts

Kathy Love — Wed, 11 Jun 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In today’s episode, Kathy Love discusses a subtle but telling sign of codependency: the automatic negative thoughts that arise when others reach out to you. Kathy shares a few personal examples of how these split-second thoughts can reveal deeper patterns of insecurity and self-doubt. She also offers tips for recognizing these thoughts and shifting your perspective to break free from codependent behavior. Tune in for insights on how to catch yourself in the act of codependency and take control of your emotional response.

Show Notes:

Kathy explores the automatic negative thoughts that can arise when someone reaches out to you, and how they may be tied to codependency.
She shares personal stories of times when her first thoughts were assumptions based on fear of rejection, rather than reality.
Kathy emphasizes how to spot these automatic thoughts and learn to laugh at them, reframe them, and heal the underlying codependent behaviors.
The episode includes practical advice on improving emotional resilience and self-worth, particularly when dealing with work, friendships, and intimate relationships.

Key Points:

Recognizing the first thought: A codependent mindset often triggers negative assumptions about others' intentions (e.g., thinking you’re being fired or rejected without cause).
The healing process: Learn to spot these automatic thoughts, laugh at them, and reframe them quickly as part of the healing journey.
Building emotional resilience: Over time, developing a stronger sense of self allows you to stop overthinking and confidently trust your worth in all areas of life.

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The Power of Neutrality: The Pause That Changes Everything with Laura Brennan Ballet

Kathy Love — Sun, 25 Jan 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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What if your greatest self-care superpower isn’t doing more — but pausing?

In this deeply reflective conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Laura Brennan Ballet to explore the concept of neutrality as a life skill — the pause between reaction and response that allows us to live, lead, and heal with intention. Together, they unpack generational self-care, emotional regulation, empowerment through awareness, and how learning to “see it through” can change everything. This episode is a reminder that self-care is not indulgence — it’s preparation for life

Neutrality as a Self-Care Superpower

Laura introduces neutrality as the pause that allows us to break patterns of reaction, judgment, and emotional overwhelm. Neutrality creates space for awareness, clarity, and choice.
Resource: The Science of Empowerment

The conversation explores how self-care is taught — not through words alone, but through behavior. Laura shares how her mother and grandmother modeled self-prioritization and how those lessons are now passed on to her daughters.

Negative, positive, or neutral — learning to recognize emotional energy helps us respond instead of react. Neutrality becomes a learned skill that can be practiced at any stage of life.

Self-care includes conscious decision-making. Laura discusses the importance of thinking ahead, understanding consequences, and choosing paths that serve both personal and collective well-being.

Laura shares the personal story that led to her book — a life-altering injury that required mental, emotional, and energetic rehabilitation. The episode highlights how empowerment is built through accountability, critical thinking, and self-love.

This episode is sponsored by The Outlier Project, a global community dedicated to personal growth, leadership, and meaningful connection.

As the #1. International Bestselling Author of The Science of Empowerment, Thought Energy Mindset Transformational Coach and Speaker, and Mind Development & Human Awareness Activator, Laura’s skill set, gathered wisdom, and personal discipline to advance human potential is evident in her creative work.
The care and consideration that supports her clients, attendees, and listeners around the globe, is evident at first greeting. High energy output and the feeling that all things are possible, begins the Co-creative relationship that she is sought after and known for.

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Adaptability: The Key to Thriving Through Change with Jennifer Chapman

Kathy Love — Sun, 01 Jun 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In this episode, Kathy Love is joined by Jennifer Chapman, Founder of Just Commit Coaching, Coach, Speaker, Stroke Survivor who helps high-performing leaders break free from their limitations and lead from within. With a powerful personal story and a heart for helping others navigate change, Jennifer shares her insights on the power of adaptability. As someone who has faced major life changes, including surviving a stroke, Jennifer explains how adaptability can be cultivated and how it serves as a foundational element in building resilience and self-trust. Whether you're going through a personal transformation or simply looking for ways to thrive through life's inevitable changes, this conversation will leave you feeling inspired and empowered.

Key Takeaways:

Adaptability Can Be Learned: Jennifer shares how adaptability isn’t just something you’re born with—it can be developed by being open to change and willing to let go of what no longer serves you.
The Power of Self-Trust: Jennifer emphasizes the importance of building trust with yourself, especially during times of transition. Cultivating this internal trust helps you adapt more easily to life's challenges.
Embrace the Resistance: Resistance often stems from fear, but as Jennifer explains, facing and questioning that resistance is a crucial step in building adaptability. By embracing change rather than fighting it, you can move through life with greater ease and clarity.

Topics Discussed:

Jennifer’s personal journey from stroke survivor to thriving leader
How adaptability differs from resilience and why it’s an essential life skill
Building trust with yourself during times of change
Overcoming internal resistance and learning to embrace change
The importance of self-awareness and self-care in building adaptability
How letting go of old identities and roles can create space for new growth

Resources Mentioned:

Jennifer's Website: Just Commit Coaching
Jennifer's Community Newsletter: Subscribe for journal prompts, self-growth tips, and valuable coaching insights
Jennifer's LinkedIn: Follow her for weekly "Friday Celebrations" and motivational posts

Quotes:

"Adaptability is one of the most underrated forms of self-care."
"The more you fight change, the harder it becomes. Leaning into adaptability feels empowering."
"You can only build trust with yourself when you stop looking for it externally."

Thank you for listening to today’s episode! If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review. Your feedback helps us inspire more people to lead with adaptability, resilience, and self-trust.

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The Power of Relationships as True Self-Care with Scott McGregor

Kathy Love — Sun, 15 Jun 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In this episode, Kathy Love sits down with Scott McGregor, publisher of Outlier Magazine, founder of The Outlier Project and Something New, and a four-time author. Together, they explore how building deep, meaningful relationships has shaped Scott's success and personal growth. Through their conversation, they highlight how relationship-building is a form of self-care, fostering both personal fulfillment and professional success. Tune in for insights into how cultivating genuine connections can elevate your life and business.

Show Notes:

Scott McGregor shares his journey of building lasting relationships, from his early days of sending personalized notes to today’s global impact through the Outlier Project.
The episode delves into how Scott's intentional approach to relationship-building has contributed to his entrepreneurial success and personal development.
Kathy and Scott discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with people who elevate you, hold you accountable, and push you to reach new heights.
Highlights include Scott’s perspective on how these relationships shape his business ventures and the Outlier Project community’s transformative impact.

Key Takeaways:

Intentional Relationship Building: Scott explains how being intentional about connecting with others has been a key factor in his personal and professional success.
Personalized Care: The power of thoughtful, personalized gestures to strengthen bonds and show people they are seen and valued.
The Ripple Effect: Surrounding yourself with high-caliber individuals elevates your standards and sparks ideas, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of your life and business.

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Starting Young: Lessons in Healing from My 12-Year-Old Client

Kathy Love — Sun, 11 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In this heartfelt episode, I share the inspiring story of my youngest client ever — a 13-year-old young woman on the cusp of high school. What started with her reading My Self Care Sht: The Workbook* turned into some of the deepest, most powerful conversations I've ever had as a coach.

Together, we explore how early experiences with friendship, bullying, people-pleasing, and boundary-setting shape us—and why healing from codependency isn't just adult work. It's essential for our kids too. This conversation reignited my passion to share these lessons far and wide, not just for adults doing the work, but for the next generation who deserve a more authentic, self-loving life from the very start.

If you've ever questioned whether the healing you're doing is making a difference, this episode will remind you: it absolutely is.

📝 Show Notes:

In this episode, I talk about:

How my relationship with my youngest client, a 13-year-old girl, began through My Self Care Sht: The Workbook*.
The powerful moment she shared her experience with toxic friendships — and how it reflected deep emotional wisdom at a young age.
Why teaching self-love, boundaries, and emotional healing early can change the entire trajectory of a life.
My own struggles with starting this podcast and how this young woman inspired me to finally hit "record."
A reminder that healing is not just for us—it's for those who come after us, too.
Why learning to protect, defend, and love yourself like you would a small child is one of the greatest acts of self-care.

Takeaway:
Whether you're doing the inner work as an adult or you're just beginning your journey as a young person, remember: the struggles, emotions, and healing paths we walk are universal—and we have so much to learn from each other.

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Nourishing Yourself: Intuitive Eating, Self-Care, and Breaking the Cycle with Jessica Dean

Kathy Love — Sun, 25 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Jessica Dean, Nutrition Expert and Intuitive Eating Coach

Episode Overview:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love is joined by her long-time friend and nutrition expert, Jessica Dean, for an enlightening conversation about intuitive eating, self-care, and the powerful connection between food and healing. Jessica shares her personal journey of shifting from disordered eating patterns to embracing nourishment as self-care, and how she now helps others, particularly women, heal their relationships with food. Tune in for insights on how to listen to your body’s signals, break free from diet culture, and transform your approach to nutrition.

Topics Covered:

Jessica’s personal story of healing her relationship with food and discovering intuitive eating.
The role of intuitive eating in healing disordered eating patterns and fostering body connection.
How nourishing your body with food can be an act of self-care and why it's important to treat food as a form of nourishment, not a source of stress.
The challenges of shifting away from diet culture and learning to trust your body’s natural cues.
How Jessica broke the cycle of food-related anxiety in her family and modeled healthy food relationships for her children.
Practical steps to begin the journey of intuitive eating, including how to start small and gradually build self-trust.

Key Takeaways:

Healing Your Relationship with Food: Learn how intuitive eating can help break free from the cycle of dieting and guilt, allowing you to reconnect with your body’s natural hunger and fullness cues.
Self-Care Through Nutrition: Eating mindfully and intuitively is not just about food; it’s about honoring your body and treating nutrition as a form of self-care.
Breaking the Cycle: Discover how healing your relationship with food can empower you to break generational cycles and model healthier behaviors for your children.

Resources Mentioned:

Intuitive Eating Book (by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch)
Jessica’s website: Jessica D Nutrition
Follow Jessica on Instagram for intuitive eating tips and meal prep ideas

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Instagram: @KathyLoveSelfCare

Quotes:

“Self-care is the ultimate form of self-love, and food is the ultimate form of self-care.”
“Once you learn to trust your body, food no longer has power over you.”
“When we start healing from disordered eating, we start reconnecting with what our body really needs.”

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Self-Care Real Talk: Are you Independent or Codependent?

Kathy Love — Sat, 26 Apr 2025 20:00:00 GMT

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In this episode of My Self-Care Sht*, Kathy Love explores the subtle yet profound ways emotional codependency can impact our lives. Often, we equate independence with being free from codependency, but the truth is, emotional dependence on others can show up in unexpected ways. Whether it’s seeking validation, comfort, or approval from others, Kathy discusses how these tendencies can create unhealthy dynamics in our relationships and personal well-being. She shares personal anecdotes, reflecting on her own journey of recognizing and healing from emotional codependency. Tune in to learn how to recognize the difference between healthy independence and emotional codependency, and discover how self-awareness and self-love can set you on the path to true freedom.

Show Notes:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love dives into the topic of codependency and what it really means to be emotionally independent.

Key Points:

Emotional Codependency vs. Independence: Kathy shares how many people mistake emotional independence for physical independence. Just because you’re financially independent or can live on your own doesn’t mean you aren’t emotionally dependent on others.
Looking for Validation: Whether you need others to validate your worth, make you feel safe, or make you feel understood, these are signs of emotional codependency. Kathy explores how to recognize and address these patterns in your own life.
The Comfort Trap: Kathy talks about how she used to seek comfort from external sources like people and objects (e.g., furry clothes and blankets) to fill emotional gaps. She explains how she learned to comfort herself and why this self-sufficiency is key to healing.
Self-Validation: When it comes to simple decisions, like choosing what to wear, Kathy explains the importance of making choices based on what feels right to you, not on the opinions of others.
The Fear of Vulnerability in Relationships: Kathy shares how sometimes we build walls of independence to protect ourselves from potential hurt or abandonment in relationships. The fear of letting others in can often look like the need for extreme independence.
Healthy Independence: It’s not about cutting others off; it’s about learning how to ask for help when needed and building confidence in your ability to stand on your own. Kathy emphasizes the need to reflect on whether your independence is empowering you or keeping you isolated.

Takeaways:

Recognize when your independence is rooted in emotional fear or self-doubt.
Learn how to self-validate and find comfort within yourself, rather than relying on others.
Understand that emotional codependency is not about needing others, but rather about learning to trust yourself and ask for help when necessary.

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24 Hours from Darkness to Hope: A Journal Entry

Kathy Love — Sun, 08 Jun 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Trigger Warning: This episode may include discussions of emotional distress and suicidal ideation. If you’re in crisis, please reach out for support—call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

In this powerful solo episode, Kathy Love opens her journal from April 2016 and reads two deeply personal entries—one written on a day filled with pain and fear, and the next on a day filled with questions and hope. She reflects on how even in her darkest moments, she was planting the seeds for healing. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by stress or unsure of your path, this episode offers comfort, reflection, and a reminder that healing often begins before we realize it.

Show Notes:

Kathy shares journal entries from April 2016, a particularly painful and uncertain time in her life.
She reflects on the emotional toll of chronic stress and the quiet strength behind asking the right questions.
This episode introduces a new theme for the podcast: revisiting past writing to witness growth and healing over time.
Kathy invites listeners to recognize their own glimmers of joy and stay connected to what truly brings them peace.

3 Key Takeaways:

Your Past Self Was Already Seeking Healing: Even in the hardest moments, you may have already been asking the right questions or holding on to what brings you joy—your healing started there.
The Questions Matter More Than the Answers: Growth doesn’t always begin with solutions. It begins with asking better questions, ones that guide you back to yourself.
Healing Takes Time—but It’s Happening: The transformation may be slow, but your awareness, your effort, and your desire to live more fully are the evidence that you’re on the right path.

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The Connection Between Salary Negotiation and Self-Care with Keri-Lynne (KL) Shaw

Kathy Love — Sun, 18 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by Keri-Lynne (KL) Shaw, founder and CEO of The Salary Bump and a TOP Advisor at The Outlier Project. KL and I dive deep into the connection between salary negotiation and self-care, exploring how stepping into your power—whether in your career or your personal life—is a transformative act of self-love. We discuss how trust, self-worth, and intuition play a pivotal role in advocating for yourself, both at work and beyond.

Show Notes:
In this episode, Keri-Lynne (KL) Shaw shares her journey from working in corporate America to empowering others to negotiate salaries and step into their personal power. We discuss:

The Power of Self-Care in Salary Negotiation:
KL explains how advocating for your worth at work is a profound act of self-care. She highlights how overcoming limiting beliefs about money and self-worth is essential for negotiating higher salaries and achieving career fulfillment.
Intuition and Trust in Yourself:
A key theme in this episode is the importance of trusting yourself. Carrie Lynn discusses how leaning into intuition can help women make bold career decisions, from negotiating a raise to transitioning to a new role.
The Ripple Effect of Self-Care:
We explore how doing the inner work to improve self-worth and confidence impacts not just your career but every aspect of your life. Carrie Lynn shares how the work she does with clients doesn’t just change their professional lives—it transforms their entire outlook on personal growth and relationships.

Key Takeaways:

Salary Negotiation is Self-Care: Standing up for your worth and asking for what you deserve in your career is an essential form of self-love and self-care.
Trust Your Intuition: True empowerment comes from trusting your gut and aligning your career choices with your authentic self, even if it feels scary.
The Power of Investing in Yourself: The more you invest in your personal growth—whether through coaching, mindset work, or self-reflection—the more you can confidently advocate for yourself in both your career and life.

Connect with Keri-Lynne (KL) Shaw on LinkedIn or Instagram, or schedule a coffee chat with her to learn more about salary negotiation and career empowerment.

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Unlocking True Potential for a Fulfilling Life with Sande Golgart

Kathy Love — Sun, 04 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Sande Golgart opens up about his personal transformation, revealing the importance of releasing control, embracing vulnerability, and cultivating awareness. This conversation is a deep dive into how we can all learn to be more present, take better care of ourselves, and live more freely.

Show Notes:
Kathy Love chats with Sande Golgart, a coach and friend who has helped her take the leap in launching her podcast and in her personal growth. Sandy shares the profound journey he's been on, discovering how to balance his masculine energy—traditionally focused on achievement and doing—with the softer, more receptive aspects of his feminine energy. The conversation explores themes of self-care, awareness, and personal transformation.

3 Main Takeaways:

Masculine and Feminine Energy Balance: The importance of finding harmony between the driven, task-oriented masculine energy and the nurturing, receptive feminine energy. This balance can create a more holistic and fulfilling life.
The Power of Awareness and Vulnerability: Sandy emphasizes that personal growth is driven by cultivating awareness. By acknowledging and embracing vulnerabilities, we free ourselves from limiting stories and fears that prevent us from reaching our potential.
Living from a Place of 'Enough': True fulfillment comes from understanding that we are already enough as we are. By shedding societal pressures and limiting beliefs, we can approach life with gratitude and create meaningful experiences from a place of self-love.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to transform their approach to life and self-care, unlocking their full potential by embracing both energies within themselves.

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From Finance to Mindfulness: Choosing Presence with Clayton Platt

Kathy Love — Sun, 09 Nov 2025 10:00:00 GMT

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In this uplifting episode of the Self-Care Sht* podcast, host Kathy Love sits down with her friend Clayton, a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher, to explore how a 20-year finance career evolved into a life devoted to presence, service, and practical self-care.

Clayton shares the inflection point that changed everything: a values-based approach to money (inspired by George Kinder) that unexpectedly led him out of finance and into not-for-profit work, meditation, and eventually corporate leadership training grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience. From the “brain’s negativity bias” to why gratitude works on a biological level, this conversation is equal parts science, storytelling, and totally usable tools.

You’ll hear how meditation can live far beyond the cushion—on the pickleball court, in the shower, or in a tough conversation in your kitchen—and why the real magic is noticing (without judgment) and then choosing your next best action. Also: the funniest unexpected benefit of meditation? Becoming “a little less of a jerk.” 😂

🔑 Key Takeaways

Mind–Heart Alignment: A successful career can still feel misaligned. Mindfulness helped Clayton move from “head only” to a purpose rooted in service.
Meditation Is a Tool, Not a Trophy: It’s not about bliss; it’s about practicing awareness so you can choose your response when life gets real.
Negativity Bias Is Normal: Our brains are “Velcro for threat and Teflon for reward.” Gratitude—specific and embodied—helps rebalance the system.
Everyday Mindfulness Works: Showers, walks, eating, golf, pickleball—if you intentionally engage your senses, you’re training presence.
Humor Heals: Laughter can downshift tension and create space for wiser choices (and kinder relationships).

👤 About the Guest

Clayton is a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher who blends neuroscience, soft-skills coaching, and practical meditation for real-world impact. After two decades in finance and a decade in nonprofit fundraising, he now helps teams and leaders build clarity, calm, and courage through mindful presence. He hosts a free Friday Morning Online Meditation featuring centering practice, a short talk, and guided meditation, with open community sharing afterward. (Details and contact in the links below.)

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Human Design and NLP are Self-Care with Heather Vickery

Kathy Love — Sun, 28 Sep 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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What if your greatest fears could become the gateway to living your most authentic life? In this illuminating conversation with transformational success coach Heather Vickery, we explore the powerful intersection of human design and subconscious reprogramming—two complementary approaches that can help you truly know, like, and trust yourself.

Heather unpacks the fascinating world of human design, a scientific self-discovery system that reveals how you're uniquely designed to experience the world. Unlike personality tests that change over time, your human design remains constant, offering profound insights into your decision-making process, energy patterns, and life purpose. We explore the five human design types—Manifesters, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors—and how understanding your type can transform the way you approach everything from career choices to relationships.

The conversation takes a deeper turn as Heather explains how Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) can help reprogram the 95% of your mind that operates subconsciously. Through techniques like timeline therapy and subliminal audios, you can make subtle yet powerful shifts that lead to remarkable transformation—often more quickly than you might expect. "Just because it took you a lifetime to get to a point where you want to make change does not mean it will take you a lifetime to change," Heather reminds us.

Whether you're struggling with codependency, seeking greater self-understanding, or simply curious about human design, this episode offers practical wisdom for your self-care journey. Pull your free human design chart at victoryandco.com and begin discovering who you truly are.

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Heather Vickery, Transformational Success Coach

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Self-Care for Nurses: Balancing Giving and Receiving

Kathy Love — Sat, 26 Apr 2025 21:00:00 GMT

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In this episode of My Self-Care Shit, Kathy Love sits down with Amy Morgan, a seasoned nurse with over 19 years of experience, to talk about the unique challenges nurses face when it comes to self-care. As caregivers, nurses often find themselves putting their own needs aside while caring for others, which can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and a lack of emotional balance. Amy shares her journey of learning to prioritize herself while navigating the demands of a high-pressure profession. Together, Kathy and Amy discuss the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing emotional codependency, and the vital role of self-care in maintaining mental and physical well-being. Whether you're a nurse or anyone who tends to put others first, this episode is a must-listen for those looking to reclaim their health and happiness.

Show Notes:

In this episode, Kathy and Amy discuss:

The Realities of Nursing: Amy shares her diverse nursing experience, from emergency rooms to trauma care, and how nurses often suppress their own needs to focus on patient care.
Emotional Codependency in Healthcare: They dive into the emotional toll caregiving can have on nurses and the risk of codependency, especially when it comes to seeking validation and neglecting personal needs.
Self-Care Amidst Chaos: Amy talks about the importance of setting aside time for self-care after long shifts and how she decompresses, including through walks with her dog, journaling, and nature.
Setting Boundaries: Amy and Kathy explore how nurses often struggle with saying "no" to extra shifts and how this contributes to burnout. They discuss how boundaries are key to maintaining a healthy work-life balance.
Hobbies and Self-Care: Amy highlights the importance of maintaining hobbies and creative outlets, which can be a vital form of self-care, especially when caregiving becomes all-consuming.
Practical Self-Care Tips: Amy offers practical advice on how nurses (and anyone else) can implement self-care into their daily routines to avoid burnout and stay connected with their own needs.

Key Takeaways:

Nurses and caregivers must recognize the emotional toll of their work and make self-care a priority.
Setting boundaries, saying "no," and taking time for personal needs is essential for long-term health and effectiveness as a caregiver.
Emotional codependency often arises in caregiving professions, and it’s important to address it to maintain balance.
Hobbies, nature, and self-reflection are all vital tools in combating burnout and sustaining emotional well-being.

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My Self-Care Shit: The Workbook
Free Daily Self-Care Checklist on myselfcareshit.com

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Bold Moves and Confident Choices: A Conversation with Courtney Turich

Kathy Love — Sun, 22 Jun 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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In this episode, Kathy Love sits down with her dear friend, Courtney Turich, Global VP of Sales and Marketing for Cooler Heads, Shark Tank alum, and host of the Bold Moves, Confident Choices podcast. They discuss the power of embracing boldness, making confident choices, and the importance of being unapologetically yourself.

Courtney shares her personal journey of embracing authenticity, self-care, and stepping into her power, while offering insights into how anyone can embody their boldest, best self. Tune in for inspiration, vulnerability, and powerful reminders on the beauty of choice and personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

Embracing Boldness and Authenticity:
Courtney and Kathy discuss how stepping into your authentic self is an evolution. By embracing boldness, individuals can find strength and confidence, even through challenges like imposter syndrome.
The Power of Vulnerability in Self-Care:
Vulnerability is key to personal growth. Courtney emphasizes that showing up authentically, even without feeling your best, is a form of self-care that attracts the right energy and people into your life.
Choice as Empowerment:
Boldness and confidence are choices we make every day. By reflecting on our past "bold moves," we can recognize the strength within us to make future decisions and embrace life's challenges with open arms.

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Kick Ass Between the Ears: Self-Care as Mental Fitness with Coach Andy Riise

Kathy Love — Sun, 12 Oct 2025 09:00:00 GMT

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Retired U.S. Army officer and mental performance/leadership coach Andy Riise (NFL Chicago Bears, University professor, Speaker) breaks down self-care as mental fitness—the inside-out training that lets athletes, leaders, parents, and teams perform under pressure. Andy shares his “mental mechanic” approach, the Survive → Cope → Thrive bridge model, and a simple daily check-in (1–10) to “fight to the right.” We talk stress, confidence, burnout, performance anxiety, and why aiming for a solid C game on bad days beats chasing perfection. This conversation reframes self-care as both personal discipline and a team sport—maintenance, not emergency repair.

3 Key Takeaways:

Train your mind like your body.
Psychological skills (energy & stress management, reframing, confidence, focus) are the decisive edge—especially when you don’t have your A game.
Use the bridge + daily check-in.
Rate 1–3 (surviving), 4–7 (coping), 8–10 (thriving). Ask: Where am I? Why? What’s one action to move right today? How can someone help? Consistency > perfection.
Self-care is a team sport.
Don’t wait for the “check-engine” light. Normalize support and vulnerability (especially for men). Remember: 70% done well is winning—show up, then squeeze the juice from what you’ve got.

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Somatic Leadership & the Power of the Resilient Reset with Kimberly Arnold

Kathy Love — Sun, 11 Jan 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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In this deeply grounding and eye-opening episode, Kathy Love sits down with Kimberly Arnold, founder of Somatic Leadership, to explore what it actually means to bring the body into the conversation—especially in leadership, work, and everyday life.

This conversation introduces somatic healing in a way that is accessible, practical, and immediately useful. Kimberly explains why thinking your way out of stress doesn’t work—and how simple, physical shifts in the body can quickly restore clarity, calm, and connection.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, reactive, exhausted, or stuck in fight-or-flight, this episode offers a powerful new lens—and real tools you can use right away.

🧠 Key Concepts

Somatic Awareness
Somatic work intentionally brings the body into awareness.

The Nervous System Reality
80–90% of vagus nerve signals travel from the body to the brain.

Resilient Reset
A Resilient Reset is a brief, physical micro-practice that helps you shift out of reactivity and back into clarity, presence, and resilience—often in under a minute.

💼 Somatics & Leadership

Kimberly shares how she works with leaders and teams to build collective resilience.

Kimberly Arnold teaches leaders how to shift from adrenaline-driven execution to regulated, repeatable performance under pressure. Even self-described skeptics are surprised by how simple her Resilient Reset body-based practices are—many describe them as life-changing. Her approach helps leaders stay composed, credible, and human in crisis, rather than defaulting to burnout or reactivity, with 94% continuing to use the practices months later. Kimberly is an organizational resilience expert and a sought-after speaker, strategic advisor, executive coach, and corporate trainer, bringing decades of executive leadership at PwC, Salesforce, and Blue Shield of California, alongside deep somatic training rooted in Aikido, Tai Chi, Qigong, Feldenkrais and conscious dance.

Learn more about Kimberly’s work at Resilient Reset:

Science-backed practices for regulated, repeatable performance under pressure

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Getting Out of Your Head with Brian Sacheta

Kathy Love — Sun, 04 Jan 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Brian Sacheta, author of Get Out of Your Head, to talk about anxiety, looping thoughts, nervous system regulation, and what real self-care actually looks like when your mind won’t slow down.

Brian doesn’t come at mental health from a clinical or textbook place. He comes from lived experience—years of panic attacks, OCD, overthinking, and learning how to function in a world that didn’t leave much room (especially for men) to talk about feelings.

Together, Kathy and Brian unpack:

Why anxiety loops happen
How our brains are wired for survival—not modern life
Why logic alone won’t calm an anxious nervous system
And how movement, compassion, and awareness can interrupt the spiral

This episode is honest, practical, and grounding—especially if you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just stop thinking like this?”

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Why anxiety is a protective mechanism, not a personal failure
How the fight-or-flight response shows up in modern stress (hello, performance reviews 👀)
What it really means to “get out of your head”
Why movement and breath are often more effective than positive thinking
How to recognize when you’re stuck in a mental loop—and how to gently interrupt it
Why talking to yourself like a trusted friend matters more than you think

🧠 Brian’s Core Framework: The 10 Steps to Getting Out of Your Head

Brian shares insights from his book, including:

Moving your body or eyes to signal safety to your nervous system
Using breath to bring your prefrontal cortex back online
Evaluating all possible outcomes—not just the worst-case scenario
Reconnecting with compassion instead of self-criticism

This isn’t about “fixing” yourself.
It’s about learning how to work with your brain instead of fighting it.

💬 A Moment That Really Landed

“Your nervous system isn’t your enemy. It’s trying to protect you—just with outdated instructions.”

🤍 Who This Episode Is For

Anyone living with anxiety, overthinking, or looping thoughts
Men who were never given language for emotional experiences
People who are tired of being told to “just calm down”
Anyone ready to practice self-care that’s grounded, realistic, and human

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If You’re Confused, That’s a Sign with Dianne Harris

Kathy Love — Sun, 28 Dec 2025 10:00:00 GMT

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In this powerful and validating episode of My Self Care Sh*t, Kathy Love sits down with Dianne, a coach and author, for an honest conversation about emotional abuse, self-gaslighting, codependency, and rebuilding self-trust.

Dianne shares her personal journey through two divorces, including an emotionally abusive marriage that left her deeply confused, disconnected from herself, and doubting her own reality. Together, Kathy and Dianne unpack why emotional abuse is so hard to recognize, why people stay, and how healing begins—not with answers, but with awareness.

This episode is a reminder that confusion is not a personal failure.
It’s a signal.
And learning to trust yourself again is real self-care.

✨ What We Talk About

Why confusion is one of the biggest red flags in unhealthy relationships
Emotional abuse vs. physical abuse—and why emotional abuse is often minimized
Self-gaslighting and how it slowly erodes self-trust
The fixer / helper identity and how it keeps people stuck
Shame, denial, and protecting a partner at your own expense
Trauma bonding, love bombing, and lack of pacing early in relationships
Rebuilding self-trust after emotional harm
Why self-love and self-care are the foundation of healing
Forgiving yourself for what you didn’t see sooner
Choosing peace over appearances, money, or comfort

🧠 Key Takeaways

If you’re confused, something matters
You can love yourself and still abandon yourself
Emotional abuse is real—even when it leaves no visible marks
Self-trust is usually the last thing to return
Healing is ongoing, not something you “arrive” at
Peace is worth everything

📖 About Diane

Dianne Harris is a life coach who supports people healing from emotionally abusive relationships and rebuilding their sense of self. She is also the author of the upcoming memoir Love Bomb, a ten-year journey of love, denial, awakening, and choosing herself. Dianne works with both women and men and is passionate about bringing more awareness to the long-term impact of emotional abuse.

🎧 This Episode Is For You If:

You feel constantly confused or second-guess yourself
You don’t trust your instincts anymore
You’ve been told “it’s not that bad”
You stayed because you thought you could fix it
You’re rebuilding after emotional harm
You’re choosing peace—even if it costs you comfort

💙 Final Reflection

It’s amazing how little we’re willing to live with
just to have our peace back.

Take a breath.
Pay attention to what your confusion is telling you.
That awareness is self-care.

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When the Mask Comes Off: Addiction, Forgiveness & True Self-Care with Chason Forehand

Kathy Love — Mon, 22 Dec 2025 03:00:00 GMT

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In this deeply honest and emotional episode of My Self Care Shi*, Kathy Love sits down with her dear friend Chason for a raw conversation about addiction, trauma, forgiveness, worthiness, and what true self-care actually looks like when the mask finally comes off.

Chason shares his life journey—from childhood abuse, addiction, homelessness, and survival, to healing, service, and founding Transformation Kitchen—a nonprofit built on dignity, community, and second chances. This conversation is about what happens when we stop performing strength and start paying attention to the pendulum inside us.

This episode is a reminder that self-care isn’t pretty.
It’s honest.
It’s brave.
And sometimes, it’s choosing to pause instead of pushing harder.

✨ What We Talk About

Growing up in trauma and learning to survive
Addiction, recovery, and forgiving yourself
The danger of “partial healing”
The monkey on your shoulder (and how to quiet it)
Why journaling, brain dumps, and pausing actually work
The moment someone paid it forward—and changed everything
Building Transformation Kitchen as a trauma-informed nonprofit
Letting people see your why
Catching the pendulum before it swings too far
Why true self-care means staying aware, not perfect

🧠 Key Takeaways

You can be high-functioning and still drowning
Self-care only works when you do all the work
Forgiveness starts with yourself
Awareness is healing
Community saves lives
Pausing is power

❤️ About My Guest

Chason Forehand is the visionary Founder behind two mission-driven organizations: HR Consultations, a boutique HR firm dedicated exclusively to empowering Social Good Entities, and HR-4U INC., a trailblazing Nonprofit committed to economic justice. Through bold advocacy and their groundbreaking Transformation Kitchen™️ program, HR-4U INC. champions living wages and workforce dignity for marginalized communities turning opportunity into lasting impact. "They don't just flip eggs, they flip lives."

🌱 Mentioned in This Episode

The Outlier Project
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Journaling & brain dumps as daily self-care tools
Recovery communities and the power of asking for help

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🌊 Final Invitation

Before you rush to the next thing—
Take one minute.
Breathe.
Pay attention to where your pendulum is today.

That is self-care.

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Turning a Death Sentence Into a Life Sentence with Terry Tucker

Kathy Love — Mon, 09 Feb 2026 00:00:00 GMT

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What do you do when life hands you a death sentence, literally?

In this profoundly moving episode, Kathy Love sits down with Terry Tucker, a former college athlete, police officer, SWAT hostage negotiator, and cancer survivor who has been living with a rare and aggressive form of melanoma for nearly 14 years. What unfolds is a powerful conversation about purpose, resilience, faith, mental endurance, and the quiet, life-changing impact of simply showing up.

This episode isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending things aren’t hard. It’s about finding meaning in misery, making deep human connections, and understanding that your life exactly as it is right now matters more than you may realize.

Terry shares his cancer diagnosis story and how he reframed a two-year prognosis into a lifelong commitment to meaning, connection, and contribution.

Terry shares the four foundational truths that shape his philosophy:

Control your mind or it will control you
Embrace pain and difficulty
What you leave behind is what you weave into others
As long as you don’t quit, you can never be defeated

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Leadership, Loss & Reinvention from Within with Lyndsay Dowd

Kathy Love — Sun, 15 Feb 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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What happens when you leave a 100-year corporate legacy… and then get fired six months later?

In this honest and energizing conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Lyndsay Dowd leadership expert, speaker, and founder of Heartbeat for Hire to unpack reinvention, resilience, shame, confidence, and the power of intentional community.

This episode is for anyone navigating a career shift, recovering from a setback, or realizing that the circle you’re in may not be the only one available to you.

Lyndsay Dowd is a leadership expert, speaker, author, and founder of Heartbeat for Hire. After 23 years at IBM building high-performing teams and cultivating culture, she transitioned into entrepreneurship to help organizations develop emotionally intelligent, modern leaders. Lyndsay specializes in refining leadership behavior, elevating executive presence, and creating irresistible cultures that drive results.

After 23 years at IBM and a 100+ year family legacy with the company, Lyndsay left on her own terms only to be fired six months later from her new role. She shares the emotional impact of shame, identity loss, and starting over.

The Three Self-Care Questions That Changed Everything
that became the foundation for her business and a roadmap for anyone navigating reinvention.

From Shame to Power

Losing her job initially felt humiliating — but it became the most relatable and powerful part of her story. We discuss how setbacks often become the very thing that makes us accessible and impactful.

Can Bad Leaders Be Taught?

Yes — and many of them are simply insecure or never shown another way. Lyndsay talks about “reformed assholes,” leadership awareness, emotional intelligence, and why good leadership is absolutely learnable.

Building Your Personal Board of Advisors (PBA)

Why surrounding yourself with people who believe in you, speak your name in rooms you’re not in, and remind you who you are is essential self-care. Community isn’t optional — it’s fuel.

Visibility as a Skill

If you struggle to be seen, start by celebrating others. Shouting out the people who inspire you builds confidence, connection, and authentic visibility.

Reinvention Is Ongoing

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Find your voice & speak with unshakable confidence with Karen Laos

Kathy Love — Sun, 01 Feb 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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Karen Laos is a keynote speaker, executive advisor and TEDx coach, who transforms how high-achieving women communicate in business. Fondly called The Confidence Cultivator, she has empowered professionals at NASA, Google, Facebook, Netflix, and Sephora.

Her mission: to silence self-doubt in 10 million women by giving them communication tools that drive tangible results in the boardroom and beyond, using her trademarked method, The Confidence Cocktail™. Karen's clients consistently report significant outcomes, securing promotions, winning negotiations, and attracting ideal clients.

She’s a three-time bestselling author and podcast host in the top 3% globally (Ignite Your Confidence). Karen's books: Trust Your Own Voice: Growing Your Influence Through Confident Communication, Invisible No More: Stepping Into the Spotlight, and Unshakeable.

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Show Your Spark: Boudoir, Self-Worth, and Real Self-Care with Lindsay Hite

Kathy Love — Tue, 04 Nov 2025 16:00:00 GMT

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High-end boudoir photographer & empowerment coach Lindsay Hite (Show Your Spark, Boston) joins me to talk about why her studio experience is far more than photos—it’s a nervous-system-aware, hospitality-inspired container for women (and those who identify as women) to see themselves with new eyes. We get into body image, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, EFT/tapping, hypnosis, and how one day in the studio can become an anchor for lasting self-worth. I also share my own session with Lindsay what terrified me, what surprised me, and how those images still remind me who I am. This is self-care sh*t in action.

Show Notes

Guest: Lindsay Hite, owner of Show Your Spark (Boston), high-end boudoir photographer, hypnotherapist, and certified life & success coach.

What We Cover

From weddings to “show your spark”
Why it’s true self-care:
Seeing yourself—really
Mindset + modalities:
Coaching ripple effect
Real talk on perfectionism & imposter syndrome
Daily self-care sh*t

Favorite Lines

“The photographs are an anchor for the emotional state you’re in when they’re taken.” —Lindsey
“She was in me all along. I finally saw her.” —Kathy
“We go first. As coaches and creators, we embody the mindset we invite our clients into.” —Lindsey

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