<![CDATA[21st Century Adulting with Travis Retzlaff]]>A journey into adulting in the 21st Century through my lens. Having over 30 years of adulting under my belt and a life split between the 20th and 21st century I'm going to share what I've learned. Along the way we'll also bring in guests to share their lessons. My name is Travis Retzlaff, thanks for coming along for the ride.

]]>https://adulting.mediaRiverside.fm (https://riverside.com)Mon, 18 May 2026 21:19:17 GMTSat, 22 Nov 2025 13:39:17 GMT60Travis Retzlaff<p>A journey into adulting in the 21st Century through my lens. Having over 30 years of adulting under my belt and a life split between the 20th and 21st century I'm going to share what I've learned. Along the way we'll also bring in guests to share their lessons. My name is Travis Retzlaff, thanks for coming along for the ride.</p>episodicTravis Retzlafftravis@tretzlaff.comno<![CDATA[Crying While Male]]>Society tells men to "open up" and be vulnerable.

Experience tells men that if they cry, they lose respect.

Which side is right?

These statements aren't even in opposition. And the unpacking of the topic isn't even specific to men.

Let's get into it.

Article: https://www.adulting.media/crying-while-male/


]]>c730dd1a-dd80-43fa-8074-f8c34e3e9018Wed, 11 Feb 2026 00:31:44 GMT<p>Society tells men to "open up" and be vulnerable.<br /></p><p>Experience tells men that if they cry, they lose respect.<br /></p><p>Which side is right?</p><p></p><p>These statements aren't even in opposition. And the unpacking of the topic isn't even specific to men. <br /><br />Let's get into it.<br /><br />Article: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.adulting.media/crying-while-male/" target="_blank">https://www.adulting.media/crying-while-male/</a></p><p><br /></p>no00:11:04Crying While Malefull<![CDATA[21st Century Adulting 2026: Tales of the New Poor and Look Away]]>There are a million voices covering the news. They’re telling you what's going on now and how we got there. 


I'm here to tell stories about how I’m trying to get through here and prepare for whatever comes next. Hopefully, deliver some food for thought, and maybe a little companionship. Things we can put to use in our own lives.


]]>4d882be1-fbff-4697-96f7-e7211e6b49ceSat, 24 Jan 2026 21:06:04 GMT<p>There are a million voices covering the news. They’re telling you what's going on now and how we got there. </p><p><br /></p><p>I'm here to tell stories about how I’m trying to get through here and prepare for whatever comes next. Hopefully, deliver some food for thought, and maybe a little companionship. Things we can put to use in our own lives.</p><p><br /></p>no00:10:5421st Century Adulting 2026: Tales of the New Poor and Look Awayfull<![CDATA[Humility: Kill Your Inner Narcissist Not Your Self Esteem]]>Humility is prized in many wisdom traditions and modern psychology, but often misunderstood, and even looked down on.

In this episode, we cover:
- What Is Humility
- Benefits of Humility
- Humility Gone Bad
- Cultivating Humility

For a written version of this material, you can visit my site.
🔗 https://www.adulting.media/humility-kill-your-inner-narcissist/

Thanks for your support!

]]>423965fc-16eb-491f-bd02-db48a4a8e424Wed, 14 Jan 2026 00:36:14 GMT<p>Humility is prized in many wisdom traditions and modern psychology, but often misunderstood, and even looked down on.<br /><br />In this episode, we cover:<br />- What Is Humility<br />- Benefits of Humility<br />- Humility Gone Bad<br />- Cultivating Humility<br /><br />For a written version of this material, you can visit my site.<br />🔗 <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://www.adulting.media/humility-kill-your-inner-narcissist/" target="_blank">https://www.adulting.media/humility-kill-your-inner-narcissist/</a><br /><br />Thanks for your support!</p>no00:24:48Humility: Kill Your Inner Narcissist Not Your Self Esteemfull<![CDATA[It's About Time: How to Hack Your Perception and Live Longer]]>Time is your most valuable resource, yet its value is often hidden because we cannot see it or know how much remains. While we can't all travel to black holes to experience Einstein’s relativity, we can change how we experience time through our "experiential clock." By understanding the "Oddball Effect" and the power of novelty, we can stop time from slipping away as we age. This video explores actionable steps to expand your days—from finding awe in nature to the simple science of "working backward" through your day to solidify memories.

]]>01de79cd-4e28-4261-9d16-6f37ad0a34b5Fri, 19 Dec 2025 00:20:32 GMT<p>Time is your most valuable resource, yet its value is often hidden because we cannot see it or know how much remains. While we can't all travel to black holes to experience Einstein’s relativity, we can change how we experience time through our "experiential clock." By understanding the "Oddball Effect" and the power of novelty, we can stop time from slipping away as we age. This video explores actionable steps to expand your days—from finding awe in nature to the simple science of "working backward" through your day to solidify memories.</p>no00:06:34It's About Time: How to Hack Your Perception and Live Longerfull<![CDATA[The Math of Kindness: Why Cooperation Wins (From Confucius to Game Theory)]]>What does an ancient Chinese philosopher have in common with a modern computer simulation? It turns out, they both discovered the exact same secret to human survival.

In this video, we explore the incredible convergence of the Confucian concept of Ren (仁), the Golden Rule found in major world religions, and the "cold, hard logic" of Game Theory. While religious leaders taught us what to do, 20th-century mathematics proved why it is actually the smartest winning strategy.

We cover:

  • The Meaning of Ren: Why virtue cannot exist when you are alone.

  • The Universal Ethic: How Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, and Confucianism all arrived at the same "Golden Rule".

  • The Prisoner's Dilemma: Why "logic" tells us to betray one another in a single interaction.

  • Tit-for-Tat: The computer algorithm that proved being "nice, retaliatory, and forgiving" is the ultimate survival code.

Cooperation isn't just an ideal—it is a mathematically proven logic for a prosperous society.

]]>9c8de932-a439-418c-a6b1-3c9a42b77189Fri, 12 Dec 2025 01:38:39 GMT<p>What does an ancient Chinese philosopher have in common with a modern computer simulation? It turns out, they both discovered the exact same secret to human survival.</p><p></p><p>In this video, we explore the incredible convergence of the Confucian concept of <i>Ren</i> (仁), the Golden Rule found in major world religions, and the "cold, hard logic" of Game Theory. While religious leaders taught us <i>what</i> to do, 20th-century mathematics proved <i>why</i> it is actually the smartest winning strategy.</p><p></p><p><b>We cover:</b></p><ul><li><b>The Meaning of Ren:</b> Why virtue cannot exist when you are alone.<p></p></li><li><b>The Universal Ethic:</b> How Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, and Confucianism all arrived at the same "Golden Rule".<p></p></li><li><b>The Prisoner's Dilemma:</b> Why "logic" tells us to betray one another in a single interaction.<p></p></li><li><b>Tit-for-Tat:</b> The computer algorithm that proved being "nice, retaliatory, and forgiving" is the ultimate survival code.<p></p></li></ul><p>Cooperation isn't just an ideal—it is a mathematically proven logic for a prosperous society.</p>no00:07:54The Math of Kindness: Why Cooperation Wins (From Confucius to Game Theory)full<![CDATA[Unlock Long-Term Weight Loss Success (It's Easier Than You Think!)]]>You want to lose weight. l have good news and I have bad news.

The bad news is there are no shortcuts. The good news is you don't have to follow a ridiculous diet or do crazy fitness routines. . 

At one point in my late 30s I weighed 280 pounds, I had smoked for decades, and hadn't exercised in about as long. Fast forward to my late 40s and I had lost 100 pounds and ran my first marathon.

The key ingredient is patience and making a series of small changes you can sustain for life

Once I figured out how to get on track I stayed there and have been healthier and happier ever since. 

I'm going to show you how I did it because it's a path anyone can adapt to their situation and reach their goals. 

Here are the three things you need to know to make this happen

  • First I'm going to share the best place to start. 

  • Next I'm going to let you know when and how to adapt what you're doing over time. 

  • Finally I"ll give you advice on how to keep the habit going for life.

 

]]>https://4cdfd979-af26-42eb-9908-63f202559867.libsyn.com/unlock-long-term-weight-loss-success-its-easier-than-you-thinkd7a02f77-c682-4d87-ad48-9fc02280b596Thu, 29 May 2025 18:07:00 GMT<p>You want to lose weight. l have good news and I have bad news.</p> <p>The bad news is there are no shortcuts. The good news is you don't have to follow a ridiculous diet or do crazy fitness routines. . </p> <p>At one point in my late 30s I weighed 280 pounds, I had smoked for decades, and hadn't exercised in about as long. Fast forward to my late 40s and I had lost 100 pounds and ran my first marathon.</p> <p>The key ingredient is patience and making a series of small changes you can sustain for life</p> <p>Once I figured out how to get on track I stayed there and have been healthier and happier ever since. </p> <p>I'm going to show you how I did it because it's a path anyone can adapt to their situation and reach their goals. </p> <p>Here are the three things you need to know to make this happen</p> <ul> <li> <p>First I'm going to share the best place to start. </p> </li> <li> <p>Next I'm going to let you know when and how to adapt what you're doing over time. </p> </li> <li> <p>Finally I"ll give you advice on how to keep the habit going for life.</p> </li> </ul> <p> </p>no00:23:4414Unlock Long-Term Weight Loss Success (It's Easier Than You Think!)full<![CDATA[Celebrate your birth, calibrate your life. Make every birthday happy.]]>From the annual flood of Facebook birthday notifications to the changing ways we respond, modern birthday celebrations have certainly evolved.

In this video, I share my recent experience of turning 50 and the slightly belated journey to expressing my gratitude for all the well wishes.

I also touch on my initial reluctance to celebrate milestones, the gentle encouragement of my girlfriend Tanya, and some timely wisdom from Rabbi Simon Jacobson's "Towards a More Meaningful Life."

Join me for a personal reflection on birthdays, gratitude in the digital age, and finding meaning in life's moments

]]>https://4cdfd979-af26-42eb-9908-63f202559867.libsyn.com/celebrate-your-birth-calibrate-your-life-make-every-birthday-happyf17359ab-65d4-4a9d-b5c4-2bac36655611Tue, 20 May 2025 10:52:00 GMT<p>From the annual flood of Facebook birthday notifications to the changing ways we respond, modern birthday celebrations have certainly evolved.</p> <p>In this video, I share my recent experience of turning 50 and the slightly belated journey to expressing my gratitude for all the well wishes.</p> <p>I also touch on my initial reluctance to celebrate milestones, the gentle encouragement of my girlfriend Tanya, and some timely wisdom from Rabbi Simon Jacobson's "Towards a More Meaningful Life."</p> <p>Join me for a personal reflection on birthdays, gratitude in the digital age, and finding meaning in life's moments</p>no00:13:2711Celebrate your birth, calibrate your life. Make every birthday happy.full<![CDATA[What you need to do when you get fired to make the most of the situation]]>At some point in your life you are likely to get fired from your job. Here are some tips on how to approach the situation.

]]>https://4cdfd979-af26-42eb-9908-63f202559867.libsyn.com/what-you-need-to-do-when-you-get-fired-to-make-the-most-of-the-situationcb15d265-45ed-47a7-9de8-544ebe6ad609Tue, 20 May 2025 11:17:00 GMT<p>At some point in your life you are likely to get fired from your job. Here are some tips on how to approach the situation.</p>no00:12:0413What you need to do when you get fired to make the most of the situationfull<![CDATA[Diabetes and Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome and Diabetic Ketoacidosis]]>🎙️ 21st Century Adulting EP9 - Diabetes, CHS & DKA: What You Need to Know

Welcome back to 21st Century Adulting! In Episode 9, we dive deep into a crucial health conversation—exploring Diabetes, Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS), and Diabetic Ketoacidosis (DKA).

Whether you're managing a chronic condition, caring for someone who is, or just curious about how modern adulting intersects with health, this episode is for you.

🧬 What you'll learn in this episode: The differences between Type 1 & Type 2 Diabetes

What causes Diabetic Ketoacidosis (and why it's a medical emergency)

How Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome is linked to long-term cannabis use Real-life stories, symptoms to watch for, and ways to manage or prevent these conditions

🔔 Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more honest conversations about adult life, health, and everything in between.

📢 Join the conversation in the comments: Have you or someone you know experienced CHS or DKA? Let's break the stigma and share knowledge!

]]>https://4cdfd979-af26-42eb-9908-63f202559867.libsyn.com/diabetes-and-cannabinoid-hyperemesis-syndrome-and-diabetic-ketoacidosis2a227cc4-85f0-4a8b-8db4-ff106c90449dTue, 20 May 2025 11:15:00 GMT<p>🎙️ 21st Century Adulting EP9 - Diabetes, CHS &amp; DKA: What You Need to Know</p> <p>Welcome back to 21st Century Adulting! In Episode 9, we dive deep into a crucial health conversation—exploring Diabetes, Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS), and Diabetic Ketoacidosis (DKA).</p> <p>Whether you're managing a chronic condition, caring for someone who is, or just curious about how modern adulting intersects with health, this episode is for you.</p> <p>🧬 What you'll learn in this episode: The differences between Type 1 &amp; Type 2 Diabetes</p> <p>What causes Diabetic Ketoacidosis (and why it's a medical emergency)</p> <p>How Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome is linked to long-term cannabis use Real-life stories, symptoms to watch for, and ways to manage or prevent these conditions</p> <p>🔔 Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more honest conversations about adult life, health, and everything in between.</p> <p>📢 Join the conversation in the comments: Have you or someone you know experienced CHS or DKA? Let's break the stigma and share knowledge!</p>no00:28:0812Diabetes and Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome and Diabetic Ketoacidosisfull<![CDATA[Mental Health how to help yourself and others proactively and in a crisis]]>21st Century Adulting - Mental Health how to help yourself and others proactively and in a crisis

 Please subscribe for more from this podcast and other content I have to offer-> www.youtube.com/@TravisRetzlaff

In this episode of 21st Century Adulting, I share my personal journey of being diagnosed with Bipolar Type 1 in my mid-thirties.

This includes essential advice on mental health and how to help yourself and others both proactively and in a crisis.

Keys include:

➡️ Self-awareness

➡️ Offering perspective to others

➡️ Physical Fitness as a support to mental health

➡️Sleep

➡️ Managing stress

🌟 New to 21st Century Adulting?

In this podcast I explore adulting in the modern age, sharing what I've observed in my adventures as an adult. Nothing is off limits with topics ranging from society, parenting, relationships (and lack of), wellness, and more.

I encourage you to check out NAMI's Navigating a Mental Health Crisis guide to learn more on this topic. https://www.nami.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Navigating-a-Mental-Health-Crisis-2025.pdf

I hope you never need this information. If you do, I wish you the best.

Thanks for listening.

]]>https://4cdfd979-af26-42eb-9908-63f202559867.libsyn.com/mental-health-how-to-help-yourself-and-others-proactively-and-in-a-crisis0c6dda7a-2371-41e0-987f-e434fdf963f2Wed, 21 May 2025 12:14:00 GMT<p>21st Century Adulting - Mental Health how to help yourself and others proactively and in a crisis</p> <p> Please subscribe for more from this podcast and other content I have to offer-&gt; <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TravisRetzlaff" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow">www.youtube.com/@TravisRetzlaff</a></p> <p>In this episode of 21st Century Adulting, I share my personal journey of being diagnosed with Bipolar Type 1 in my mid-thirties.</p> <p>This includes essential advice on mental health and how to help yourself and others both proactively and in a crisis.</p> <p>Keys include:</p> <p>➡️ Self-awareness</p> <p>➡️ Offering perspective to others</p> <p>➡️ Physical Fitness as a support to mental health</p> <p>➡️Sleep</p> <p>➡️ Managing stress</p> <p>🌟 New to 21st Century Adulting?</p> <p>In this podcast I explore adulting in the modern age, sharing what I've observed in my adventures as an adult. Nothing is off limits with topics ranging from society, parenting, relationships (and lack of), wellness, and more.</p> <p>I encourage you to check out NAMI's Navigating a Mental Health Crisis guide to learn more on this topic. <a href="https://www.nami.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Navigating-a-Mental-Health-Crisis-2025.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow"> https://www.nami.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Navigating-a-Mental-Health-Crisis-2025.pdf</a></p> <p>I hope you never need this information. If you do, I wish you the best.</p> <p>Thanks for listening.</p>no00:13:5714Mental Health how to help yourself and others proactively and in a crisisfull