The Motherhood Sh!tshow

The Mental Load Killed My Sex Life

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 21:46:50 GMT

This week on The Motherhood Sh!tshow, we’re talking about something every parent knows all too well:
how the bloody mental load manages to kill your sex life dead.

Before we even get into the sexy stuff (or the total lack of it), we kick off with the usual chaos: Lisa’s low-effort BBQ triumph, Hannah’s gastro-ridden week from hell, and the Jewish chicken soup that held the household together. Because of course.

Then we dive head-first into the truth:
When you’re carrying the emotional, mental, logistical and sensory load of an entire household…
the only thing getting lucky is the washing machine.

💥 In this episode we get into:

The invisible mental load that absolutely annihilates desire
Why intimacy dies when you’re the walking brain of the household
Touch fatigue, resentment and the “don’t even breathe near me” phase
Postpartum expectations vs the very unsexy reality
Scheduling sex like dentist appointments (romance is DEAD)
Why choreplay genuinely works (science says so)
How hormonal shifts and identity earthquakes mess with desire
The resentment spiral and how couples fall into it without noticing
The actual reason men misinterpret exhaustion as rejection
Why intimacy needs mental space, not just time or opportunity

This episode is basically a permission slip for every mum who’s ever thought:
“I love him… but I’m not even close to in the mood.”

❤️ The deeper stuff we unpack:

Why the pattern isn’t “him vs her” - it’s the dynamic you both fell into
How childhood survival roles show up in adult relationships
Why communication collapses after babies arrive
The resentment thorn - and why it keeps getting nudged
What really needs to shift before desire returns
How sharing the load fairly becomes the foundation for intimacy

🔗 ▶️ To watch the MENTAL LOAD RESET masterclass, click here:

https://www.lisahodgson.co/mentalreset

Inside this FREE 60-minute masterclass, Lisa teaches the 6-step framework she’s built over 5 years - grounded in global relationship research, behavioural science, communication skills and her experience inside 500+ family homes.

It’s designed for couples (or solo), and shows you exactly how to shift your home dynamic so:

the load feels fairer
resentment drops
communication improves
you feel more connected like a team again.

And if you’re craving connection with other mums who get it, join The Mum Hive on Whatsapp here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1

Help! My Kids are Feral!

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Mon, 08 Dec 2025 22:22:14 GMT

If your kids seem perfectly behaved for everyone else then turn into tiny gremlins the second they see you… you’re not alone. This week we talk about what’s actually normal, what’s developmentally expected, and why none of this means you’re a bad parent.

We cover:
• Why kids save their wildest behaviour for you
• Meltdowns, bedtime chaos and what’s biologically normal
• Phases vs red flags
• Mum guilt, judgement, and the “am I the problem?” spiral
• Neurodiversity, diagnosis hurdles and the emotional load
• How our own childhood shapes how we respond

Hannah also shares honestly about navigating her child’s challenges and the shame, fear and confusion so many parents carry but rarely say out loud.

A small favour:
If you see mums talking about feral kids, meltdowns or burnout, please share this episode so more women feel seen and supported.

Free resources:
Grab the mum tools linked to make the chaos 5 percent easier.

Join The Mum Hive FREE whatsapp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1

The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist

Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

Finding Friendships Fraught? It's Not Just You

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Tue, 02 Dec 2025 22:36:55 GMT

This week on The Motherhood Sh!t Show, we dive headfirst into the wild, wonderful, awkward, butt-clenching world of female friendships - as mums, as expats, as women with weird childhood hangovers, and as humans who are absolutely winging it.

Before we even get to the deep stuff, Lisa relives her spiritual awakening at the Oasis gig (Manchester pride, accidental Liam Gallagher evangelism and all), and Hannah tells the now-iconic story of the cat poo mistaken for a protein bar - because of course. This show is not called a Sh!t Show for nothing.

💬 In this episode we chat about:

Why making friends as grown-ass women is weirder and harder than anyone admits
The pressure to have a big circle of mum friends (spoiler: bollocks)
How drinking-based friendships change when you get sober
What it’s like trying to form connections as new mums, expats, or both
When friendships last forever — and when they really, really don’t
The grief of friendship breakups (yes, it’s a thing)
Being a “shit friend” in the past — and forgiving yourself
The difference between performing friendship vs real connection
Why we need friends who can handle our weirdness
Why mums STILL say “sorry the house is a mess” even when everyone knows it looks exactly like a house with kids should
Why vulnerability is the secret sauce in friendship… unless someone weaponises it (yikes)
How teen behaviour affects mum friendships (because teenagers… are teens)
Rediscovering who the hell you are, and finding people who actually see you

This episode is basically a cosy, chaotic, truth-telling hug for anyone who’s ever felt lonely, awkward, or completely unsure how to “adult” at friendship.

❤️ Loved this episode?

Send it to the friend who lets you be your complete feral, flawed, fabulous self.

And don’t forget to grab our FREE mum resources below - designed to make this circus we call motherhood slightly easier.

The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist

The Mum Hive Whatsapp group: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1rErsKo5LeZ9jleWJbK0I2vOgVL0uJkAd3aLfLFwe3_k/edit

6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

Lisa’s Christmas resources: https://www.lisahodgson.co/free-home-organising-resources

Sober Mumming - We Called Time on Mummy Wine

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 06:59:34 GMT

In this juicy (and very real) episode, Lis and Hannah dive deep into their personal journeys with sobriety - from white cider in the park as teens to wine o’clock as exhausted mums. With eight and six years of sober life under their belts, they reflect on the sneaky grip alcohol had on them, and how breaking free has completely reshaped their motherhood experience.

We chat about:

The emotional loop of craving → drinking → regretting
Why “just one glass” never really is just one glass
What it means to be a grey-area drinker
How sobriety helped us become more present, emotionally available mums
And of course, the books that cracked it all open...

📚 Books/Podcasts that supported our journey:

This Naked Mind – Annie Grace
Beyond Booze – Sarah Rusbatch
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober – Catherine Gray
The Sober Diaries – Clare Pooley
The Sober Awkward Podcast
A Thousand Wasted Sundays – Victoria Vanstone

Whether you’re sober-curious, stuck in a wine-at-5 loop, or just here for the honesty - this episode might be the sign you didn’t know you needed. We promise, you’re not alone.

Other Mum Resources to Make Life Easier

The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist

The Mum Hive : https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784

6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

Back to Work, Not The Same

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 19 Nov 2025 00:16:36 GMT

Returning to work after babies isn’t the empowering “hot coffee and adult conversations” moment we were promised. It’s more like an emotional triathlon - guilt, logistics, identity shifts and a workplace that still thinks you’re the same person you were before birth… cute.

In this episode, we get honest about the messy, lonely, hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking reality of going back to work as a mum. We share our own return-to-work stories, the data behind the motherhood penalty, why confidence takes such a hit, how matrescence changes everything, and what workplaces actually need to do so mothers stop walking out.

Plus our Shit Tip of the Week, a camping mishap, manifested Oasis tickets, and why snacks might just save your career.

If you’re returning, thinking about returning, or still crying in the bathroom at work... this one’s for you. Join us, and come feel less alone.

The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist

The Mum Hive : https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784

6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

Contact Hannah to be part of the 50 coffees with 50 mums project: hannah@themumhive.com

Contact Lisa: lisa@lisahodgson.co

Mum, The OG Santa

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 12 Nov 2025 06:16:18 GMT

Feeling the festive frenzy already? You’re not alone. In this Motherhood Sh!tshow episode we get real about the Christmas mental load: the shopping, wrapping, feeding, feelings… and why it so often lands on mums. We talk expectations vs reality, expat Christmas chaos, family dynamics, and how to keep your cash, your calm, and your couple-ship intact. What’s inside

✨ Why Christmas piles extra invisible labour on mums (and what to drop)

✨ Expat Christmas: big feelings, tricky family dynamics, and saying “no thanks”

✨ Expectation vs reality list (Santa photos, matching pyjamas, stocking fillers, “perfect” table…)

✨ “To-DON’T List” ideas to cut the clutter and the cost

✨ January “divorce month” 👀 + why strong couples plan time to work on the relationship

✨ Tiny daily steps (15–20 mins) that make sharing the load the new normal

✨ Sh!t Tips of the Week: unsubscribe + carve out micro-me-time; plan now so you can delegate later

✨ Links & Goodies

✨ 1. Join the Share The Load Waitlist (doors open end of Nov; programme starts mid-Jan): [link]

2. Free Ultimate Festive Planner (printable) 👉🏻 budgets, gifts, meals, cards, sustainable ideas + a page to build your To-DON’T List: https://www.lisahodgson.co/free-home-organ...

3. Hannah’s 50 Coffees with 50 Mums (Sydney) — want in? 👉🏻 Pop her a note to hannah@themumhive.com or DM on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahrodgerco...

4. The FREE Share The Load Guide 👉🏻 https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

5. Share The Load Program Waitlist 👉🏻 https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-...

6. The Mum Hive 👉🏻 https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=ht...

7. 6 Steps to a clutter-free life 👉🏻 https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

8. Contact us: lisa@lisahodgson.co, hannah@themumhive.com If this made you feel seen, hit Like, Subscribe, and Share it with your mum group. Drop a comment: What’s going on your Christmas To-DON’T List this year?

Sorry Not Sorry: The One About Self-Compassion

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 05 Nov 2025 02:45:30 GMT

🎙️ Episode: Sorry Not Sorry

If I said half the things I say to myself out loud to someone else, I’d look like an absolute arsehole.
There, we said it.

In this episode, Hannah and Lisa get real about the brutal way we talk to ourselves - and why it’s time to stop apologising for simply being human.

We unpack why we’re so good at saying sorry to everyone else but never to ourselves, and how a little self-compassion can make everything; work, motherhood, life - just that bit lighter.

Because being kind to yourself isn’t indulgent. It’s survival.

💬 In this episode:

Why our inner voice can be such a jerk
The power of forgiving yourself
How impatience feeds guilt and burnout
Why self-kindness is the real productivity hack

💌 Resources & Links

Free Share The Load Guide: lisahodgson.co/share-the-load
Share The Load Program Waitlist: lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist
The Mum Hive Community: the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing
6 Steps to a Clutter-Free Life: lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

📬 Contact us:
Lisa - lisa@lisahodgson.co
Hannah - hannah@themumhive.com

Help! My Home Is A Shit Tip!

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 29 Oct 2025 05:04:53 GMT

Hannah and Lisa focus on the emotional and physical burdens of clutter. They discuss the impact of the holiday season on mental health, the expectations versus reality of parenting, and the importance of shared responsibilities in managing household clutter. The conversation also delves into the role of consumerism in creating clutter and offers practical strategies for decluttering and teaching children about value. Ultimately, the discussion emphasizes the need for intentionality in both decluttering and parenting, encouraging listeners to embrace the journey of motherhood with compassion and mindfulness.

Show Links:

6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree

How to make a memory box:

1 x suspension file box : https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/really-useful-box-24l-clear-file-box-rub24lfile

1 x Pack of Suspension Files: https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/j-burrows-recycled-foolscap-suspension-files-assorted-50-pack-jbsfc50frr

The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load

Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist

The Mum Hive : https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784

Not By The Hairs on My Chinny Chin Chin (Parenting Through Perimenopause)

Hannah Rodger and Lisa Hodgson — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 19:11:31 GMT

In this engaging conversation, we explore the multifaceted experiences of womanhood, particularly focusing on the journey through perimenopause and menopause. We discuss societal expectations, and emphasize the importance of celebrating milestones in women's lives. The conversation also touches on the commercialization of menopause, the impact of cultural narratives on self-perception, and the significance of friendship and support among women. Ultimately, we advocate for a more positive and accepting view of the changes women experience throughout their lives.